Hello Lee,
I too have had a tough time this year, you can see my post “a worried young husband and father”
Its shocking, these forums are fantastic at relieving the strain and all the ladies are positive, treatments are tough, but effective and breast cancer is a very successfully treated condition.
I have a young daughter and can relate to how you must feel, with your children being involved to, they are the reason we must be strong.
Things are good for us at the moment, and i feel that that must have been why I could let go of all my stress and fear, acceptance isnt easy, uncertanty isnt easy, but we must both tell ourselves not to waste the time we have on this earth, with our loved ones, illness or no illness.
My heart goes out to you, and I wish you all the support i can,
I do think that more men should open up about these things, I blocked it all for 8 months, and had a mini emotional breakdown, two weeks ago. it was a positive thing, I am dealing with all my worries and have found that, speaking about my feelings has help, I do recomend counceling. I am slowly accepting life and the new normal as my wife puts it, yes times are hard, but we must not be blind to what is right there in front of us,
If you are interested in talking maybe we could build each other up a bit.
Peer support have been unable to find me a suitable match.
I am slowly learning the new normal, and hope that over the next few weeks, I wont over think on the negatives and focus on the great thing i have in my life right now.
nobody knows whats around the corner, but if we focus on worrying, the we will miss out on the positives.
our wives are both here now, and we should enjoy them and our familes as much as possible,
We do face some surgery, but i am looking at that very positively, a possible hystorectomy and maybe a Bi lateral mast. that is good because it removes the bad, then all we have to deal with is the bones, and as the ladies here say, you can live a pretty normal life, with the cancer being more of a chronic illness, than a cancer as such.
Sorry to go on, but i am glad to see another family man on here.
at times like this i think its important to open up and stick together. I must admit after a good cry, I feel lighter and stronger, each time, acceptance and enjoyment is what we need,
we owe it to ourselves and our partners to enjoy the moment, we must be aware of what is going, but should not let it drown us. things may get tough, but right now its about recovery and afinding the new normal, its not easy, but I am sure w will get through things as best we can.
again sorry to waffle but its great to hear another bloke on here.
Peace & Support to you.
Matt