I was diagnosed one week ago and will undergo a biopsy tomorrow will know next Wednesday what kind of surgery and other treatment I will get. I am 54, have always felt young and healthy. Now I a hit for the first time. I love my life, and especially my breasts! I will have to lose the sick one, it feels extremely brutal.
My breasts are so important to me.
I have no lover. How am I going to meet someone again?
To be kissed on my breasts has been the most erotic experience of my life. How will I cope with an ugly scar instead? And a fake ugly breast without feelings?
It feels all terrible
Hi, I’m so sorry to hear about your diagnosis but you have come to a fantastic place for support. We are the same age & I felt the same as in healthy & certainly not my age! I was lucky my mammogram came just at the right time to catch my lobular cancer very early. I was diagnosed in December & am now 6 days post op, single mx & node clearance. I can’t really help you with the emotional fear of losing your breast etc, perhaps someone else on here can? You obviously don’t have to have a fake breast as reconstruction is an option either at the time or later on, your Consultant is the best person to advise you. In my case I would rather be healthy & alive with one breast than the alternative. At the moment I cannot see myself wanting a reconstruction, having another op etc I just want to get on with my life but obviously we are all different. I never in a million years thought i could imagine myself, or be happy with, one breast, although obviously i may change my mind in the future. I am married but if I ever find myself on my own again my feeling is if someone couldn’t accept me as I am they are not the person for me. Good luck with everything, I am sure all will be fine although you may not think so at the moment (I didn’t when people said this to me!) x
Sweetheart, you will still be a woman and im sure many ladies go onto to having a loving and a meaningful relationship. I know exactly how you feel as I am 57, single and just about to lose mine too. But my life means more than a pair of breasts. Im going to have reconstruction surgery later on this year and after seeing photos of the finished product they dont look too bad! Im having skin sparring mastectomy which means at least the skin over my implant will be my breast skin. Have you thought of this type of surgery? Should you need it? Its all very horrid this cancer but we can live on and stand proud knowing we may have fake boobs but our real ones tried to kill us! Be strong and accept all the help you can. Take care, lynne xxxx
I am so sorry, I really feel for you. I am 59 and will prob lose my left breast (still waiting for biopsy results). When I was young and up to my late 20s my nickname was Twiggy, so I never really had a decent pair to start off with :cathappy: It was only in my mid 30s that I began to ‘grow a pair’ and I have become fond of my late bloomers. No partner for me either but I’m valuing life as a priority and anything else is a bonus.
I do so hope you feel better about this in time - a great big virtual bear hug to you
Rosie xxx