My mum has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and that it also is in one of her lymph nodes, she is having a ct scan on sunday to determine whether or not it has spread. My friend put me in touch with this site and i have found myself glued to it reading all these inspiring stories.
My world has completely crumbled around me and the news is still so raw, the waiting is so difficult as i am finding that my mind is working total overtime as we have no idea yet what stage the cancer is.
Hello kate
Welcome to the forums. I’m sorry to hear of your mums diagnosis, the first few weeks are always difficult when coming to terms with the diagnosis and treatment.
As well as the support you and your mum will receive on the forums you might find it helpful to order the BCC resources pack. It has been specifically designed for those newly diagnosed and contains information to help you understand the diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available. If you would like to order a copy just follow the link bellow:-
You and your mum may also like to talk things through with one of the helpline staff, they are there to offer emotional support as well as provide information. The free phone number is 0808 800 6000 and lines are open 9-5 Monday to Friday and 9-2 Saturday.
Best wishes
June, moderator
Hi kate,
Im sorry to hear about your mum, the waiting is very hard for you both try and keep busy easeir said than done! im a mum and i had to tell my son last week that i have BC we are close but i know he is finding this hard like you are!!
Love to you both xx
Tina123
Hello Tina thank you for your comment, sorry to hear your news such a limbo time for everyone isnt it. Hope your not having to wait too long for your appointments? my mum has been very lucky she was diagnosed on friday and now isnt having to wait to long for her ct scan and her bone scan. Perhaps your son would find great comfort in this site? i have found such support on here already.
lots of love and prayers to you and your family xxxxxxxxxx
Thank you June for that information xx
My mum has her bone scan tomorrow rather than next week she got a cancellation, feel a tiny bit less anxious now I know the tests are starting! Limbo land is the worst especially for my poor darling mum! This site has helped me so much today and i will be introducing it to my mum over the next few days!xxxxx
Hi kate28,
That’s really good that your Mum has scan tomorrow, another off the list ticked! Your Mum will be welcomed here and any worries etc someone will come along and help. So both of you take care, let us know how your Mum gets on, lots of hugs and fingers crossed xx
Thank you katytc for your lovely message! I am not doing too well today lots of anxiety and im petrified but am being strong and positive for my mum as she is my priority!xx
Hi Kate
my mum has just been dianoised with BC and today gets her results, i am like you i feeel anxious, sick, worried, like my life is in limbo, i try to be positive and never show my mum i am worried, try and keep as much normality as possible. Thsi website has helped me so so much reading lovely stories and support. I really think its best to talk isnt it. I hope all goes ok with your mum, sending lots of hugs and good wishes xxx
Hi NESS30
Welcome to the BCC discussion forums, I’m pleased to read you are finding the forums to be of help to you during such a difficult time.
As well as the forums as June has mentioned in her post above the resources pack can be very useful, you might find it helpful to order it for your Mum.
Also if you or your Mum would like to talk things through, please don’t hesitate to give the helpline a call on 0808 800 6000. Here you share your concerns with a trained memeber of staff who will offer you emotional support as well as practical information. The lines are open Monday to Friday 9 to 5pm and Saturday 9 to 2pm.
I hope this is helpful.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
Hi NESS30- it’s so tough isn’t it, how did your mum get on today with her results? I went with my
Mum today for her bone scan even tho we don’t know what stage it is or what treatment she is going to have it was realisation time for us all that this is just the beginning of this rollercoaster ride! Sending lots of love and prayers to you and your mum xxxxxx
Hey well I don’t know what safe grade she didn’t ask. My mum is one for treat me and get in with it rather than all the technical stuff!! They know te cancer hasn’t spread as she had the CT and bone scan but her lymph is swollen so a masectomy on 5th march with lymph removal then 8 weeks later chemo radio and hormone treatment. She know it’s a hormonal type of cancer. It’s still so scary and I know exactly how you feel it’s agonising waiting for results but trust me it feels better once you know because you know what to deal with. It’s never good news with cancer at first but we will all be ok and so will our mums. Keep her busy that’s what I have done. I have bought box sets and DVDs galore! Also puzzle bOoks to keep my mums mind busy in the evening because he sits around waiting. Once you and your mum know the treatment plane you have aomethig to focus on. Being on here is a godsend it helps talking to people going through it and understanding that they r thinking w hat I am thinking. Friends are great but when u r going through it with ur family it’s so different isnt it. Please keep writing and letting me know and I will send good positive vibes and hugs to u and your mum xxxx