My mum has secondary breast cancer

Hi,

My mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer about 18 months ago after being cancer free for 11 years. This was a massive shock & difficult to deal with at the time. She went on chemo tablets and unfortunately this didn’t work. The cancer has in fact spread to her liver and she is now on IV chemo. I’m really struggling to deal with all of the emotions whirling around at the moment! I feel I’m lashing out at people closest to me and then just becoming a quivering mess. I’ve started some counselling sessions which I’m hoping will help, it was an idea of my now ex boyfriends - he broke up with me as he couldn’t deal with my emotions which hasn’t helped how I’m feeling…

I just wondered if anyone has any tips on how to channel positive thoughts and whether anyone was in a similar situation and would like to share their journey.
Thanks.

Hi Helen_84, 

I am really sorry to hear that both you and your mum are going through this difficult time. I am sure some of users will be along to lend their support.

Please do call our helplineat 0808 800 6000 who will be able to talk you through any questions you have about your mums diagnosis and also talk to you about how you are feeling, offering a friendly ear. The opening hours are below. 

Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm
Late opening Wednesday 9am-7pm
Saturday, 9am-1pm

Best wishes, 

Lizzy

Dear Helen

My mum is diagnosed with breast cancer lately. I understand you, I can’t even breath. She is far from me, living another country and I can’t travel because of the country situation. I can’t even describe how the whole situation is hard for all of us. But I call her everyday and explain her all treatment procedure. I know she likes to be with me. I think best thing to do just cheer up her by all means. 

During her treatment I will take her for holiday to another country. I have send some gifts as well last week. I am lucky that I have lovely aunties as well around her all the time. While she is going to hospital for injection, one of my aunts accompany her. 

We all human we should deal with difficult situations in our life. Just be happy dear and try to be happy and positive while you are with her. 

You are not alone. Everything will be fine. I hope your mum gets better soon. X

Hi, just wondering how your mum is doing? My mum has been diagnosed today after 8 years x

Hi,

How are you doing with things? I hope your Mum is doing ok at the moment.

If you would like to chat I have quite a bit of experience now, my Mum is 2 and a half years into this journey, it’s been a rough ride but she is still here and quite stable at the moment.

It is good to chat I agree.

Feel free to send me a private message if you want.

Sending positive thoughts.

J x