hi everyone, what with the warm weather proving to be quite uncomfortable I have now decided to face everyone without my wig, my hair has started to grow a bit now, and I have quite a good covering, I have been out a few times and guess what? no stares so far, dare I take this as another step in the right direction?
Feeling a bit better about things, has anyone else recently put their wig away?
Liz x
Hi, I am now 2 years on so my hair is back to how it was before, but reading your post brought back memories of when I first went to work in my special needs school without my wig - I had what I thought was quite a lot of hair, newly dyed with a natural veggie dye - most of the kids had a bit of a stare, a couple asked why I had cut it so short (which reassured me that they didnt suss the wig) then love him, one little 'un asked me if I was a man now ! Bubble burst big time but it did make me laugh. Many haircuts later its fantastic to once again chose how to wear my hair instead of BC deciding how I look ! xx
I have 1 tax to go tomorrow but quite a covering of hair so have recently put my wig away as it no longer sits properly but I hate my hair at the moment. It is very, very short and I feel very self concious and uncomfortable with it at the moment, coupled with the weight I have put on during chemo and I am about to undergo Mx and recon and I have a big body image problem so I hate going out. Not quite sure how to get over this one, I can’t exactly sit at home til my hair grows back to my previous length!
I have been going without my wig for about 6 weeks now, found it interesting how different it felt in different places and with different people. Soemwhere where no one knew me was always easier. I had had so many remarks about my lovely “hairstyle”, that it seemed as though folk thought that the wig was my newly grown in hair, and so couldn’t face going out with my disguise. Forgot to wear my wig outside for a couple of errands and got a couple of reactions with people looking shocked which did not help the morale-and then I decided to laugh about it.
It looks much better after my hairdresser trimmed it a tiny bit.
I also put on more make up than usual and pay more attention to what I wear to increase the femininity quotient. But it is hard finding clothes when you have gained a lot of weight, and don’t want to be in a changing room with a prosthesis, will have to get tougher about that.
It is OK now with good frineds and people who don’t know me at all, it is curious acquaintances that upset me the most, and I have not felt able to go to some social occasions because of this. But then they are social occasions that would have been difficult before, so it’s not all down to BC.
Hi everyone,
I think you are bound to be sensitive to how you look, but I personally (so far at least) havent even seen anyone give me a second look, unless they have done it once I have walked past them lol,
I have 100% respect for my wig, without it when I was completely bald I just simply dont know what I would have done, I couldnt have faced the world without any hair at all.
Some ladies look beautiful with a bald head, not for me, I dont think I look too bad with the bit of hair I have now, and hopefully it will continue to grow and get thicker.
The body image is a difficult one, I have days when I carnt seem to cope with how I look,
then I have another day when I dont feel so bad about it, just need to have acceptance of it all, it is daunting but each one of us has to cope with it however we can, nobody ever said it was easy did they?
I wouldn’t want to keep my hair this short permanently, and it doesn’t really go with a flowery summer dress. But it is such a relief to have a full head of hair again! People I know have been kind about it, aside from a few (honest) remarks about how much greyer it is. I didn’t find wearing a wig comfortable, so I ditched it completely as soon as I had a reasonable covering.
Remember to protect your scalp from sunburn when the sun comes out! And anything like tops of ears and the back of your neck that used to be covered by your hair.
I managed to lose a little weight after chemo, but now I’m stalled. I’ve still got some swelling and discomfort along with occasional joint pain from Arimidex, which doesn’t encourage exercise, but I’m going to try to put the study from Taiwan, that 15 minutes per day has real benefits, into practice with a brisk daily walk of at least 15 minutes. Then I hope that all the work we need to do on the house and garden, even if I can’t do the heavier stuff any more, will also help to burn off some calories and improve my muscle tone.
BTW, does anyone have good ideas about what to do with wigs that are still in good condition?
I’ve only worn my wig three times as I find it too warm even though it has a very ventilated cap. I used to construct big turbans using large scarves but it’s too warm for them now.
I’ve simply bitten the bullet (encouraged by OH) and been going commando for a few weeks now. I have a Buff for when it’s cold (near Tesco chillers or anyone’s aircon) or even too sunny - to protect my scalp. I wore it to the pub on Sunday because all the “second looks” get a bit wearing.
Hair now nearly 10mm and has no pigment yet so it’s still fairly invisible.
Mezzomama - I’ve often thought there should be a wig sharing thing 
Once I totally ditch mine I’d be happy to give it to someone in need, even as a 2nd wig. Personally I’d like a brown chin length bob with a fringe but can’t afford to buy another wig at the moment.
I hardly wear mine as it’s too hot so it’ll be in great nick once I’m done.
Perhaps you can sell it on Ebay? If you don’t feel happy getting money for it then you could donate the money to a cancer charity.
I only wore my wig 3 times during treatment. I just didn’t feel I needed to and I loved experimenting with different coloured bandanas and hats. The scary bit for me was knowing my hair would come back silver as I’d started going grey in my early 20s so had been dyeing for 23 years. However, it was lovely and really sparkly, I went out with it when it was like a silver crew cut and never looked back. I lived with the silver for 2 years then it unfortunately started looking a very uneven shade at the back. I’m now an ash blonde, 2 shades away from silver. If I thought it would turn white I’d stop the tinting. Mind you, when I was silver I got criticised as I was only late 40s and people kept saying I shouldn’t be grey. Like I was bothered after having cancer!
I’m in my 50s and apart from a small area that had de-pigmented (skin now visible due to baldness and also a small portion of hair), I still had my own colour hair - dark blonde/light brown.
The new growth has no pigment at all but TBH at the moment, I’m grateful for anything. But I fancy going blonde when I get more hair; getting a bit rad. I don’t care any more.
hi everyone, I fancy going lighter too, my hair is growing back dark as it was before, with the odd grey one creeping in, my wig is a highlighted bob, chocolate colour with frost highlights, I quite fancy keeping my hair short,everyone keeps telling me it suits me!
its amazing how appreciative it makes you feel even if its only a downy covering isnt it?
Its looking good anyway, I seem to be able to see a difference more or less every couple of days.
Hi ladies my mother in law wore a beautiful bandana, it wasn’t in anyway like what you see bokets wear it was long and floaty and thin but not thin enough too see the baldness
she picked blue to match her eyes she went to a doo in it and she looked amazing I wudnt doubt to wear one x
Hope that gave yous a laugh, stupid phone, bokets= bikers. Lol x