Nearly posted this last week!

Now I kick myself as I picked up the iPad so many times last week and read all the threads and so nearly posted my story.
Found a lump 4 weeks ago whilst on holiday with my husband (first time away without anyone else in like 19 years!). I’m 40. It was the beginning of our holiday and so I put it to the back of my mind, but I felt it every night and yes, it was still there. It was like a ‘date stone’ size I guess, just above my left nipple.
My left breast is a little larger than my right anyway so, I hadn’t noticed an increase in size.
No pain in breast but I have been tired since last summer and have had bloods done and found to be anaemic.
Returned from holiday with a lovely tan…and still a lump in the breast.
Phoned doctors and when I explained I had found a lump they got me in within a day.
Doctor, after examining me, referred me straight away to the hospital and said I wouldn’t need to wait more than 2 weeks. I had a phone call that afternoon booking the appointment for the following week.
I went on my own to the hospital as the tests take a while and I didn’t want to worry anyone. The nurses at the breast care department were wonderful and we laughed about how many times I had to strip off in one day!
I first saw the doctor who examined me and felt the lump. I then waited again before having a mamagram and then an ultrasound. I had breast implants 2 years ago (after breast feeding 3 children, I felt I deserved them!) and so the mammogram was a little harder to do but it wasn’t unpleasant.
Whilst having the ultrasound, the radiologist said that she could see the lump and that it would be best to do a biopsy there and then. She explained that there could be a risk with my implants, but that it would be best to go ahead. I agreed and after a little local anaesthesia, the biopsy was performed.
I then went back and waited to be seen by the doctor again.
The doctor explained that the results from the biopsy take about a week and I was made an appointment for the following week.
The week up to the results were strange. Little things kept happening that prepared me in a way for the results.
I have now started to have a little pain in the area, not bad pain but every now and then a little dull ache.
My husband was insistent that he was to come with me for the results. And I’m glad he did.
My appointment was late in the day and most of the staff had gone home. A neighbour was in the waiting room too and we smiled at each other not wanting to ask, I guess.
When we entered the doctors room, he very quickly explained that they had found breast cancer, and even though I DID know, I still burst into tears!.
The rest is a bit of a blur, it’s 1-2cm but yet ungraded.
The doctor was great and very patient with me blubbering!! My husband asked questions but tbh I wasn’t listening.
I’m due to have surgery to remove the lump and check the lymph a week next Tuesday.
I know I will have radiotherapy but I’m not sure about anything else yet.
I don’t know a lot about radiotherapy and so I will be reading all the blogs to find out more!
After leaving the hospital, my husband and I went to a pub to talk about telling the children (oh and I had a very large glass of wine!)
We decided to get the youngest (7 and 14) to bed before telling the 21 year old. She burst into tears and then my son (14) on hearing the commotion, came down the stairs and so we told him too. I hope we have done the right thing. I will be honest with them and ask them how they are feeling and hopefully we can be strong together.
I have woke early this morning. I’m thinking about telling my sister over the weekend and then my bestest friends. One of the things I asked the doctor was, ‘can I go on holiday 10 days after the op.’. It’s my sisters hen week and all arranged!. It seems, hopefully, I can!.
Well, this weekend will be strange, all getting our heads around it.
But I’m a positive person and I will be ok :slight_smile:

Love to everyone affected by this and look forward to reading more blogs.
Speak soon.

Hello Karenim

Welcome to the forums, this must be a very worrying time for you but you have come to the right place for support from our experienced users who I’m sure will be along to support you soon.

Ive attached links to two publications that may be of use to you, one is about radiotherapy and the other is about telling younger children and is called Mummy’s Lump.

www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/publications/treatment-side-effects/radiotherapy-primary-early-breast-cancer-bcc26

www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/publications/diagnosed-breast-cancer/mummys-lump-bcc164

You may also like to talk things through with a member of our helpline staff who are there to offer emotional support as well as practical information. The free phone number is 0808 800 6000 and the lines are open Monday to Friday 9.00 to 5.00 and Saturday 10.00 to 2.00.

Best wishes

June, moderator

Hi Karenlm

 

You were up early!!

Sorry you are here but honestly you have come to the right place for support and advice from the wonderful ladies that use this site.

 

My advice is to take things one step at a time, dont look too far ahead and DO NOT GOOGLE. The information on google is quite often out of date and can just set your mind off racing in directions it does not need to go just now.

 

I told everyone about my condition includng my 4 children! and it was very very hard but they have been a great support to me during this time.

 

You have done the right thing in seeking help and the operation is not that bad, i had WLE & SNB and it was not in that much discomfort afterwads. Take the meds and do the exercises you are given, get as much rest as you can.

 

All the very best to you, feel free to pm me if you have any questions, i will do my best to help.

 

Take care

 

Wendy xx

Hiya very similar to my story. Is an awful time I know . I am 38 married with 2 kids 11 and 8. Found a lump - referred to breast clinic- ultrasound and immediate biopsy and back two weeks later to be told what I already knew. Haven’t ctied once though just feel numb. Lumpectomy by wire guided wide local excision on 16th July. Told both my kids - they are so clued up I just couldn’t hide the fact without lieing. I can’t get it out my head and so apprehensive of what the future holds . Gutted school summer hols will be so rubbish for the kids. Finding out already who my friends are. Really hoping this forum helps. Worries hubby will go off me right know is biggest albeit prob silly concern. Be great to chat more xxx

Ok, so it’s been 4 days now since being told I have breast cancer. Still feel like I’m in a bubble. I have spent the last 3 days visiting people. It’s like Christmas but without the gifts!. I turn up (not wanting to ring and alarm anyone) we have a chat about everyday things and then I tell them. Tears, laughter… Then on to the next person. With social media now, I have not wanted people I care about to hear from someone else and so I have done the old fashioned knocking on doors, kinda thing.
I’m exhausted, Mentally and physically. Today I had my pre ops stuff and a routine visit to my gps surgery. That was the day gone. The rest of the week contains more door knocking and organising the home around my surgery. I have slept better as the days go on and I have found real comfort in the forum.
Thank you all. And big hugs xxxx

Hi I had my surgery 3days ago mine was grade 2 they have took cells away under arm and inside breast getting better each day was able to get up off chair myself today so will have a nice shower and wash my hair good luck to you looks like they found it early like me we will get over this hugs xxxx