I am newly diagnosed and have date set for op in two weeks. Even so it does not seem real. I just can’t believe it is me this is happening to. At times I feel as though I am dreaming.I am more concerned about how my family are feeling. My friends say that I have realised it is happening as I have become very forgetful and at times appear confused. Did anyone else feel this way at the beginning. It’s good that the hospital are acting so quickly but because of this very worrying. I know this is all a jumble of confused thoughts. It’s just how I feel at the moment.
Yes I certainly did. It is a huge thing to take on board and get to grips with. This forum was helpful to me during those times. I found support on the “I am recently diagnosed” thread in the early days so I recommend you go there and read some of the other posts and then post again if you feel like it.
forum.breastcancercare.org.uk/t5/I-am-recently-diagnosed/ct-p/recently_diagnosed
All the very best to you. x
Madwoman
What you are feeling is totally natural, you have only just been diagnosed and there is a lot to take in. The feeling of it not being real is something that we can all relate to, as is forgetting things and appearing confused, you have a lot to take in and this is in the middle of trying to carry on with your normal life.
Give yourself time over the next few weeks to take it in a little at a time, if there is anything you want to know and that we are able to help with we will. You can also ask questions of the nurses on the ask our nurses section, and there is the helpline number you can phone if you want to actually speak to someone.
Sending you a hug
Helena xxx
Thanks for your response. It is so good to hear from someone who has been in my position and come out the other side. I am going for my pre op assessment tomorrow so am focusing on that but find myself expecting the worst as I was so confident that the result of my biopsy would be negative.
I am beginning to understand that normality will return at some point it’s just that I want it to happen tomorrow.
Love to you.
Still madwoman x
Hi madwoman. Just to say that I felt just like you when I was diagnosed. I went for a routine mammogram had a recall and was sure I’d be fine. I was in total shock and disbelief when I was told I had breast cancer and was in a kind of alternative reality and a daze for a while. I have two daughters in their 20’s and it was very hard not to worry about them and try to stop them worrying about me. It’s really good that the hospital is getting you seen quickly. As Helena said the pre op is fairly straightforward but can involve sitting around a lot. Ask as many questions as you want to. They are all really lovely usually and will want to be supportive and reassure you. I hope it goes ok and will be thinking of you today
Sue x
Hi madwoman. Just to say that I felt just like you when I was diagnosed. I went for a routine mammogram had a recall and was sure I’d be fine. I was in total shock when I was told I had breast cancer and was in a kind of alternative reality and a daze for a while. I have two daughters in their 20’s and it was very hard not to worry about them and try to stop them worrying about me. It’s really good that the hospital is getting you seen quickly. As Helena said the pre op is fairly straightforward but can involve sitting around a lot. Ask as many questions as you want to. They are all really lovely usually and will want to be supportive and reassure you. I hope it goes ok and I will be thinking of you today. Big hugs,
Sue x
Oops sorry sent that twice as it said not sent first time!
Sue x
Hi Madwoman, JoeC, Sus12, and annehr,
Only stumbled on this thread on the off chance (secretly checking out what “games” my friend LadyBowler’s playing :smileytongue:), it being in the Chat and Games. You’d do better response wise in the Newly Diagnosed area. However Madwoman, I hope you’re going on and recovering well from your op now, as it’s a few weeks ago. Let us know how you are.
Annehr - I’m not understanding being refused immediate implant recon because of your size. I was a 34B and offered immediate implant recon, with the option to “tittivate” (surgeons words) the other side to match, if needed.But then, I hadn’t had rads to the other side. I do hope you were given other recon options tho’. if not. Many surgeons recommend a Lat flap (back muscle) for smaller breasted women, but of course self tissue recons have many more considerations, extra scarring, healing time and infections risks, which may be why you preferred implant choice to begin with. How did you go on??
Lotsa love
Delly xxxxxx