Hi everyone,
How can I get help from this forum?
I need to talk to someone.
Amany
Hi Amany ,
You can chat to us here in the open forum if you feel comfortable doing so, plenty of ladies having gone through diagnosis , treatment and beyond will be around to listen and help answer any questions and hopefully help ease your worries too!
We also have an ask the nurses section but they can’t always respond immediately although they will reply as soon as they can or you could ring the help line 0808 800 6000, they are wonderful and were a god send to me in the early days ?
Im almost 3 years from diagnosis now but pop on the forum regularly to try and help where I can , come back and talk to us and we will do what we can to help Xx Jo
Thanks for your reply.
I been diagnosed with breast cancer last year. I finished chemotherapy, surgery and radiotherapy. I deeply depressed, cannot get over mastectomy and body image distortion.
I kept my illness secret from my family and friends. My husband doesn’t understand my feelings even though he is supportive in his own way. I can’t force myself to engage in any activity, i was on antidepressants with no change. I live in a place where no support groups or so ever help.
I don’t know what to do with my life.
Thanks for your reply. Do they accept women from outside UK?
Hi Amany,
I’m so sorry you’re feeling so down. Probably a bit alone too with what you’ve had to go through and cope with. I know what you mean “body image” wise, after losing both my boobs 2006 and 2007 I didn’t like looking at myself, let alone anyone else lokking at me. But I am part way through implant reconstruction, which, even though at an early stage yet, has given me back much of my lost shape and really boosted my confidence. Perhaps it would also help you to look at and into reconstruction surgery options. You may not be up to it at the moment, but it could help give you a boost, make you feel more hopeful, confidence wise.
Sending you some love
Delly xxx
Thank you Delly for your kind words.
Your very welcome Amany. Whereabouts are you living? xxx
I am Egyptian living in saudi arabia
Well Helloooo out there Amany. Am thinking you’re much warmer than we currently are. What did you think and feel about my suggestion of reconstruction? Is it something you’ve been offered and/or considered? xxx
Hi Delly, yes I have been offered reconstruction after 6months. I requested a meeting with plastic surgeon to discuss my options. I don’t know what are the technique they use to reconstruct breast in this institute. Anyway I feel it is long time to wait and angry they didn’t offer immediate reconstruction.
Oh Amany, I’m really sorry to hear that. I’d wondered if there had been specific reasons why they didnt offer it to you, such as radiotherapy treatment? Have or are you having to have it? Because that can often affect whether immediate recon is an option or not. If you’re not having, yes, I can well understand your upset and frustration, in that it would have probably helped you more, without your current body image sensitivites. But sounds like you’re going to have to be very patient.
I’m not sure what religion you are, but will you celebrating Christmas?
Delly xxx
Delly,
From the beginning of treatment they said reconstruction after one year even before knowing radiotherapy need. I had radiotherapy and I know it affect surgery timing and option. I hope i can have enough patience to wait. I struggle every minute of the day. At work i look and act normal but when I go home I lock myself in my room not willing to do anything. My days go like this only. I am muslim.
Thanks Delly, I am on antidepressants , it helped me a bit but I easily drift back to darkness. I lost all hopes and interest.
Amany wow you did that without telling anyone. I’m telling everyone ! You must be an amazingly strong woman. And you’ve worked through it too. I don’t think anyone can go through all this without a struggle at some point, it’s hard to take it all in some days.
But look what you’ve achieved ! You’ve gone through the most horrid treatment and you’ve survived. Well done that’s such a big achievement I give you a huge round of applause.
The journey though is not over and I really understand the body image thing. I’ve yet to have my mastectomy but already I’m struggling with the idea.
I’ve heard so many positive reports and seen pictures of reconstructions to help me to accept that I will one day have a body I can learn to love again.
You can get through this, I just know you can well done for finding this website it’s the first step towards helping yourself I’m sure.
I’m a little envious at what I imagine your scarf tying skills must be as a Muslim woman. I’m not getting that elegance that I see in the Muslim women around me yet. But I’ll keep trying.
Keep going, you’ll get there I think you’re fab x
Thanks for your kind words. I wish you the best outcome of your surgery.
Hi everyone,I’m new and I’m from Trinidad and Tobago,need to talk to someone privately please.