I’ve read so many wise words in these forums, so I’m turning to you all for advice. Later this year I will be moving from Hampshire to North Wales, leaving friends, support network, daughters and doctors behind. Scared? Me? you bet! But the thing that worries me most is that I will meet a lot of new people (well I hope so) who will not know my ‘history’. pretty much everyone I see regularly here knows about my BC (I’m 2 years post Dx now, and mostly fine, I think)so I feel I can be ‘myself’ around them. Thing is, when I meet new friends, do I tell or not? And how? Can’t really say ‘pleased to meet you, by the way I’ve had BC’ - not a good way to break the ice. Anyone out there moved and made a new network? Any wise words welcome.
Hi there,
I moved about 15 months before I was DX am now 14 months post dx so I am meeting a lot of new people all the time. I personally dont mention it unless it comes up in conversation via another subject i.e. talking about organ donation the other day and asked why I wasnt on the register. I find myself having the “I’m fine now just waiting for meds to finish etc etc” conversation at which point most people either ask me the ins and outs of a ducks bum or they just skirt round the issue until the topic changes. I dont actually avoid the issue but neither do I mention it unless its relevant. I think you will find your own comfort zone on the issue. Just do what you are comfortable with and trust your insincts. Sounds a bit zen I know sorry dont mean to!!
Good luck with your move. Enjoy. S x