Hello everyone, I had a brief phonecall from my lovely consultant to let me know that I have tested positive for triple negative BC, high grade, about 2cms, I looked on Google, rookie error and all these words are terrifying. I’m on holiday abroad (lovely consultant had told me no point sitting around waiting). Appointment with consultant on 26.5.2022 for the full biopsy debrief. He has discussed my results with an oncologist and I’ll most likely kick off with 6 cycles of chemo, 3 weeks apart and then surgery. Any guidance about sensible questions to ask at my consultation? I had to go private to get a mammogram and biopsy but am being referred back into NHS. Didn’t help tonight when watching a soap opera (Emmerdale!) and a character is told her triple neg is basically a death sentence. At the moment, I look totally ok of course and I’m not sure husband, family and friends realise how tough this will be…I’m the coper, the planner and the rock…but that’s not how I feel right now. Thank you for any advice or positive outcomes. xx
Pollyannsglad, sorry you find yourself on here but glad you’ve reached out to Breast Cancer Now please step away from dr Google. Tnbc is treatable and survivable a good book that helped me is surviving triple negative breast cancer by Patricia prijatel, a 2 x tnbc survivor. It’s not for everyone but it helped me. I always took note book and wrote all my questions and their answers down. Get dentist appointment prior to starting chemo tell your dentist you are starting chemo they will fit you in. Oral hygiene is important during chemo. Get a thermometer you will need to keep track of your temperature during chemo get some senokot and anosol, sorry if tmi but the steroids will block your bum up. Get a wig voucher from your trust if you are not cold capping also get yourself booked onto look good feel better courses through your Macmillan at your trust. Do everything your way, there is no right or wrongs do what you need to do to get through. Breast Cancer Now is here for you and everyone else, do please do use all the services as much or as little as you all need. Do jump onto the chemo thread when you start if you want to together you all get each other through and it’s your safe place to just be if you need somewhere for you where other just get it ask away and everyone will try and help 
Shi xx
Hi from another TNer.
I’m so sorry to find you here but you have found the right place. There’s loads of advice from Shi so I won’t confuse you further. I just wanted to point out that the Emerdale story is about a Stage 4 diagnosis (secondary, her cancer had been treated but is back - after decades away from it I’ve been tuning in to see how the story develops. I’m sure they’ve done their research. It’s NOT the condition your have, remember that) It’s the Stage 4 that is regarded as ‘incurable’ (hateful word) rather than the TNBC. Yes, TNBC can be tricky - there are fewer treatment options (still plenty though) and it’s a rapid-moving cancer requiring immediate attention. You won’t find anyone dragging their feet.
I too started off in the private sector but the oncologist transferred me across to the NHS for chemotherapy etc. It’s way too expensive. You see the same consultants, get the same treatment, so you don’t lose out at all, I wish you all the best in your treatment. Don’t forget to let us know how you get on. Try to relax and enjoy your holiday, you lucky things.
Jan x