Hi all diagnosed with bc on Friday definitely in the right breast but they don’t no wots going on with left so I have to have an MRI scan a week today then another week for results before they decide on treatment which will prob be a lumpectomy and radiotherapy I’m the first person in my family to have this so not much experience on how to deal with my eldest daughter in denial and gets shouty if I try to talk about haven’t told my youngest yet as sitting her alevels was ok until I went to work yesterday to the news that the mother of a colleague died that morning at only 48 with bc can’t face work today so taken rest of week off as a/l can’t eat can’t sleep I just don’t no what or how I should be feeling
Hi jojums
I remember walking around in a daze for a couple of weeks when I got my diagnosis. Its a really difficult time, I know. The MRI is a good idea because they will make sure that they know exactly what they’re dealing with. Once the results are in and you get your treatment plan, you will feel better.
Chatting on this forum is a great idea, because you can talk openly about what youre going through, to ladies in the same position as you. There may be things that you don’t want to talk to your family about and things that they really don’t want to hear.
Its early days for you and what you’re feeling is perfectly normal.
Sending a hug x
Hi Jojums,
I’m really sorry to hear this, you must have had a very difficult weekend.
We have some information specifically for people who have just been diagnosed, I hope it can help: bit.ly/2slGSln
Take care,
Becca at Breast Cancer Care.
Hi Jojums - Charys has hit the nail on the head and couldn’t have put it better myself. I too was 48 at diagnosis last year and I ain’t going nowhere! Same procedure, diagnosed, then MRI (which is a great tool to make sure they know what they are dealing with) and now after surgery (mastectomy) i’m back at work living my life as it was. My daughter is also going through A levels and a son in Uni and it was hard for them at first but I just was positive around them. We will always tend to be a ‘magnet’ for hearing those ‘bad news’ stories (don’t ask me why but people do tend to pipe up with them without thinking) but if everyone reported on all the ‘success’ stories we would never hear the end of them and be here all day. Everyone is different and like Charys said that lady may have had a completely different type of BC and other factors. Early days are the WORST but it WILL get easier once you feel more in control with what’s going to happen. Best wishes Alex xx
Hi Jojums, I echo what the other ladies have said. The early days are awful and your mind goes into overdrive with the worst case scenario. You have to remember that breast cancer is so successfully treated these days. I was 49 when diagnosed last year. I also had an mri which only showed the one tumour so had a lumpectomy, radiotherapy and I have been taking Tamoxifen for just over a year. And I feel great, my life is back to normal. Telling my 2 boys was very difficult, the oldest (then 14) asked firstly if I was going to die and then if I was going to lose my hair. The youngest (then 10) was very angry and said we shouldn’t have told him, he didn’t want to know. But I managed to arrange most of the treatment during their school day to minimise the impact and to make the days as “normal” as possible. I was as honest as possible when answering their questions and stayed positive even if I wasn’t really feeling it (and I did have a few bad days).
You will get there, I promise, and each day will stop seeming like a struggle to get through. Take care. Michelle xx
Thank you xxxx
Thank you for sharing your experience I no it’s not All doom and gloom I swing from Ye wotever bring it on to omg I’m gonna die I’m seeing my gp Friday to get some help even if it’s just to get a good nights sleep my eldest daughter (30) is not much help as she is in denial not talking about it means it’s not happening I’m telling my youngest (18) at the end of the week once exams are over telling my mum tomoz wasn’t sure about telling them at first but it’s not something I can hide if I have to have surgery
hi jojums im in exactly the same boat i found out the 10th june that i had second stage breast lobular carcinoma im 47 and have 5 kids my eldest daughter has done the exact same thing and is 26 my emotions have gone from pure and utter fear that im going to die an convinced myself of this that every ache and pain i get is cancer to i got this i will be fine im shocked to no i even had these emotions im waiting for my results from my mri to no were i go from here and i applaud everyone on this forum and site as its kept me going listening to survivor stories and how we all go threw the same emotions and at the same time feel so alone i have hardly slept or ate the waiting and not knowing what is happening and what the final diagnosis is terrifying and im hoping that when i do get my treatment plan i feel better xxx
Oh flutter I’m so sorry for you but please stay strong xx my bc was picked up from a mammogram I had no symptoms at all but since Friday I’ve had an aching pain in my right breast that I’m convinced is the cancer growing but I’m sure it’s all in my head cos I’ve never had pains before the diagnosis I had a pain in my side and was convinced it’s spread it’s silly really but I suppose a natural reaction lol please let me know how you get on sending you big hugs xxxxxx
Hi flutter.
You’re not alone in the fear. It can be absolutely debilitating. When I was diagnosed in April it was also found in 7 lymph nodes so I was convinced it had spread to my brain, back and liver. I’m 43 and thought my days were numbered. I seriously started to experience real pain in those areas.
The relief when my ct scan came back clear was enormous and miraculously the aches and pains disappeared. It’s easy for me to say this, but it really will get easier. I’ve had my mastectomy and lymph removal now and start chemo July 4. Sounds crazy, but I really can’t wait.
The waiting is absolutely the worst thing. Our brains go into overdrive.
You will cope with this, and I’m sure you’ll come out of it even stronger than you are now. X
hi all thank you so much for replying and yes im sure it will all be fine in the end my mind scared me more then the bc as ive always thought myself relatively strong minded but i suppose everyone has something that bends it a little and i really need them big girl knickers bcz at the moment i feel like im acting like a child ? i so hope you all do well in your recovery and the wsiting i agree is the hardest im a baker and own a cake shop so creative an my imagination is on another level which isnt helpful at this point in time lol today im trying to be as positive as i can be and having a spring clean lets see how long i can keep it up for god bless u all xxx
Thankyou everyone, it’s a relief to know that you’re not on your own, it has hit me like a brick wall but today is the first day that I feel like I am beginning to come to terms with my condition and thanks to this site and my medical team and GP’s, thankyou lovely ladies xxx hugs