Hi all,
I was diagnosed last week after finding a lump. I suspected it wasn’t benign when the doctor who did my biopsy looked worried, and got the results last Thurs. I’m 28 weeks pregnant.
I’ve had a mammogram since the diagnosis and am waiting to get an MRI. The consultant last week said the plan would be chemo while pregnant then surgery and radiation after baby is here. I have a nearly 4yo son and am vaguely terrified of how on earth we’ll cope but am already seeing so many amazing stories which are giving me hope!
Feeling very up and down and want to understand more about the next steps but have to be patient - next appointment is this Thurs.
Would love to know if others have been in a similar position, I’m feeling very overwhelmed right now and so distracted I’m struggling to get any work done. Feeling very emotional that I won’t be abe to breastfeed the new baby but trying to focus on the positives.
Thank you!
Hi Lilyb84,welcome to the forum. Im sorry you are having to deal with this alongside side your pregnancy and having a young child .There is a younger woman’s section on the forum although it’s not always very busy ,Breastcancernow organises younger women’s get togethers pretty regularly if you can find one that you feel able to travel to .They also have a “someone like me” service where you can be linked up either by e mail or phone with someone who has been through very similar things.I will try a post You the links .If you are starting chemo - the chemotherapy monthly threads are a great support and you can share tips and get advice from others going through chemo at the same time .Best wishes .Jill x
Hi lilyb84
Just thinking of you and wishing you all the best for your appointment tomorrow X
Lilyb84 Reading your story makes my heart ache for you, but also it shows that you are such a strong women and you can tackle this head on, stay strong!! ?
Your concerns sound similar to my own, I have a 3yo who is just a bundle of energy and I am constantly worrying how I’ll cope once chemo starts. But I think they can sense when your low, the day I got diagnosed my children just randomly kept coming over kissing me and telling me they love me… so hoping once they know mummy is poorly they’ll be very well behaved (for a couple of weeks anyway!)
I am still waiting for my HER2 result to come back but I have got my BC nurse constantly on to the hospital trying to chase, my feeling is it’s going to come back positive and I’ll start chemo to shrink, probably the same pathway as you.
I am currently signed off work , my job is quite stressful (I work in the NHS) and like you just unable to focus and have up and down days. Are you still working ?
Sending you lots of positive vibes for your up coming appointment, and arrival of your beautiful new baby. if you ever need to chat, even at 5am (normally the time I wake unable to sleep) please message we are all in this together!!
You are not alone.
Jem xx