I was diagnosed on 13/10. I also have a 15yr old dsughter who lost her Dad, My husband due to cancer 8 years ago. She is being really good about it all but is obviously very upset. I wondered if anyone alse is/has been in a similar situation and how I can best help her. We also lost my Mum 4yrs ago and my daughter was very close to her. Unfortunately my sister lives in London and my Dad is disabled so there isn’t any other family members except an aunt close by. Thanks
Hi Tlf1,
I’m sorry to hear that you have joined us. It is bad enough you having to be here without your previous losses.
I don’t have children so am unable to give you any advice, however, you have come to the right place and I’m sure someone will be able to help. I’m going to bump up your post to the top of the “latest” list and hope that someone picks it up for you.
One thing before I go, have you spoken to your breast care nurse about this? Perhaps it would be worth giving her a call on Monday?
Axx
Hi Tlf1
I too have recently been diagnosed with BC (11/10), I have a 19 year old son who lost his dad, my husband, in Jan 2010 also to cancer. I am fortunate enough to have family close by but I know what you are going through. My son had a girlfriend whose mother also had BC a few years ago and I think this has given him insight and hope that he wont lose his mum as well any time soon. Not sure how you can help your daughter, but perhaps giving her all the facts would help her, and of course she can also speak to someone on the help line here who may be able to answer her questions.
I hope your daughter can find what she needs to help her through this experience.
Weme
Hi Tif1, I have been diagnosed with BC a month ago. I have 2 sons of 17 & 13 & lost their aunt, my sister, in April 2010 to cancer & also their Nan, my Mum, to the same in 2004. Both my boys were close to both of them so I know what you are going through with the worry of your daughter. I found that being honest with both my boys has been the best policy. I had lump & lymph nodes removed last week & now just waiting til 26th Oct for results to see what treatment they are going to give me. Keep positive for your daughter & you will be suprised how strong that will make you & how resiliant she will be. Point out to her the success rate for treatment & … keep your sense of humour as it definatly helps. Good luck. Sue
Hi tif1
I have a 15 yr old son. I found best 2b honest. They know when something is wrong. I had a cry 2myself, & when he came home from school told him. He wanted 2 know why I had been 2the hosp etc. i was upbeat & sd it wd be fine. Hosp wd whip it out, etc. I have hd days where I have been tearful over it, but just sd mum.s having a funny hormone mo & we laughed about it. I had wle, snb, rads+ on tam now for 5yrs! I had grade 1stage 1,out of hosp in 1day. You will get through this with yr daughter, &coz we have no other choice. Take each day as it comes, you have had a lot 2 deal with already both of you. Excuse typos, cant type from my phone off 2do dinner now as hungry teenager demanding food!
best wishes 2you
xx