newly diagnosed

Have just been told today good new is very small. Am waiting for operation date. Hasnt sunk in yet, it happens to other people not me.

Hi Lizzyb

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Hi lizzyb. Deep breath you will get lots ofsupports from thefantastic ladies on this forum. I know it’s a shock, I was diagonised with DCIS two weeks ago following a routine mammogram screening, whilst this is very early stage breast cancer, I still have to undergo a mastectomy and reconstruction. I’m hadmy SlNB on Monday and I know sit anxiously waiting for the results (praying that the nodes are clear, results due in next Tuesday. I have learnt from this forum two key things …no 1 take each step as it comes…no 2 do NOT google other websites, there iis a lot of inaccurate websites out there with really scary stories that are just not true. You said “good news is small”. Focus on this. What is the next stage? Big hugs xxxxxxxx

Hi Lizzyb

I am in agreement with taking things day to day, i was diagnosed in July and had DCIS and they also found an Invasive tumour; i had my mastectomy last Tuesday and am feeling ok, not great but getting there. You have to take all the information and digest it slowly as this will help you understand what is going on…this forum has helped me so much and there are lots of lovely people who have gave me their honest and supportive advice on what to expect and how you may feel. You will not always have a good day but there are more of them than bad…I just try to focus on the fact that the cancer is gone and I can start to rebuild and enjoy my life with my fantastic family and friends who have been fantastic… Keep your chin up xxxx


Thank you it is such a comfort to know there are people you can talk to. When I hear of what you and others are going through I feel so fortunate. Whilst waiting for my diagnosis I couldn’t sleep. Last night I had my first good nights sleep for ages. I feel at least now I know I can deal with whatever comes my way.I am waiting for my operation date but it seems quite a simple procedure, I will be out the same day. I then have to have 5 weeks of radiography. Will take one day at a time and try and remain positive.

That is the spirit.!! Your operation will be over before you know it and you will be well on your way to recovery with the Cancer removed from your body. Stay strong it is the only way forward really and we ladies are the stronger sex anyway, as wehave to give birth to babies. Sending you postive vibes for your operation . Love Tracy xxx

Hi lizzb
I was diagnosed the same way in June. two thing to remember, they found it early, which is always good and it is treatable. You will have days when you feel ‘off’, but hang in there, it will get better as time goes on. Lean on family and friends if you need to, this is not weakness, it’s sensible. Take care of your self.
Love Kellogs

Hi Lizzyb. I too am like you. I was diagnosed on Wednesday, after waiting just over a week for my results which was torture. And like you, have slept better for knowing.
Our treatment sounds quite similar, was diagnosed with Invasive Ductal Grade 3. I’m having surgery on Tuesday to remove the lump, but also a portion of lymphs as a lump was discovered under my armpit during the ultrasound. Was told that five weeks after, would then undergo radiotherapy, but that is dependendent on the pathology results, and this will be discussed with me two weeks after surgery, and if it has spread to my lymphs, and given my age, 41 which they termed ‘young’, may need chemo. Also I was told that the tumour isn’t hormone receptive, and the breast cancer nurse who I met with after my diagnosis explained that normally, chemo was the treatment rather than targeted hormone therapy? Ultimately though, that’s the decision of the oncologist once the pathology results are back.
At the moment, I still don’t feel it’s properly sunk in, as I said, I feel better for knowing, and knowing what to expect, and trying to accept I have to go through it. That feeling’s wearing off tho as the time is coming up to my surgery. Until today, I hadn’t actually had a proper cry, just the odd tear, but today the floodgates have well and truly opened!!! I also feel a bit of a fraud…I feel perfectly healthy!! If it hadn’t have been for a random check of my boob a few weeks ago, I’d be sat here, preparing for Christmas and being none the wiser!!
Good luck my love, let me know when your surgery is, and I’ll keep checking in too. I think this forum’s great, there are so many inspirational stories and ladies out there who are incredibly supportive, and know what we’re going through.
Much love, Kitzie (real name Jules) x

Hi lizzyb & kitzie
i have just joined the site, and have been amazed on how many people are going through the same as me. I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer, but do not know which Type . I have just had my op date through for the 14th Dec, it kind of makes you feel relieved that the date has finally come, that something is now happening to remove the lump, but also scarred as to what happens next…my friends and family have been so supportive, but this site has been good to listen, speak and share the same experience and to have an idea what might happen next.
ladies together with everyone we can fight this.
big hugs to you all xxxxxxx

Hello. I was diagnosed a few weeks ago …
Had lump removed 2 weeks ago and lymph nodes too so recovering but unfortunatly have been booked in for more surgery on Friday as not clear margin and spotted something else!!!
MRI scan before that…
So ups and downs…After first surgery I thought cancer it was out so felt relieved in a strange way as felt I was taking a step forward (even though I know I have to have chemo), so to have to have more surgery really knocked me for 6
But, at least lymph nodes were clear except one of them and I will still have hair for christmas!!
Hugs to you all

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Ah the question of hair!!.! I may start chemo week before christmas, so I could wake up bald on Christmas Day- what a present. It’s really strange how it obsesses us, and those who Have their hair say its only hair and will grow back.Great, but how do I cope in the mean time- will they join in and shave their hair off- I think not. I am so sorry to come over so angry, but I am and no oNe is acknowledging - I am ‘so lucky to be alive’ . Yes I am, but they are alive too and keep their hair- why should I be more grateful?


Ah Rose-hey that’s *my* name!! :slight_smile:
Its ok to feel angry, scared, anxious and everything else. I am sitting alone in my car on a hillside overlooking the city right now, as I suddenly couldn’t stand being with my dear family a moment longer! Nothing they did really, maybe its just as you are saying: *I* have cancer, they don’t, and I don’t want reassurance, don’t want hugs, … just want to be alone for a bit!

All that said, it’s not THEIR fault we have cancer either, and while “it’s not fair” that we have it, I guess it’s not fair to be mad at them either.

I had my surgery (partial mastectomy and axillary node dissection) just over two weeks ago. I have grade 3 IDC with one out of eleven nodes affected. My son is getting married Dec 29, and I was worried I’d have no hair, but now I learn that the margins were not cleared, so now I am worrying that I shall only have one BOOB instead!
Sigh. What can I tell you. What we all want is for this not to be happening, and all we can do is try and support eachother as we get through it!