Well my pre-op assessment date here for 31/7/13…Major wobble…on my own. Words of encouragement please am melting
Janey
Hi Janet, I was dx 17 th may and still find it hard to be around people, by bc nurse said that some people to withdraw for a while, I’m ok with very close family but not that good with girls from work, have explained don’t like them all coming to house at same time, it’s not a blinking coffee morning.
regards surgery, I had pre assess then op two weeks later, to be honest was so relieved to have op, in my opinion it got IT out. I was very calm on the day and it was a Hugh relief. I’m far more wound upto day as have to go for ct results been up all night so stressed.
Try and see surgery as first hurdle over, would will be amazed how quickly you recover from the physical, the emotional I find much more difficult.
You take care, it’s a big positive that pre assess booketumour in the system and treating this crap disease, good luck xx llos x
Meant big positive pre assess booked as in system and treating this crap disease, sorry I pad does its own thing at times x
Hi Janey. Sorry you find yourself here and having to have surgery. I had an mx and ANC ( all nodes removed) in April. I had 5 tumours in my breast and 3 cancerous nodes, so quite frightening and like you I was very scared. Luckily it’s all gone and I’m having chemo and rads as belts and braces! When I thought about my op I just thought ‘ok I’ve got something wrong with my boob, it has to go and that’s that’ I’d had ops before so I just looked at it like that. Yes it is hard to adjust to the ‘new’ me, i have the odd cry and I do miss my cleavage 
but the cancers gone so its a small price to pay. And next year I can have a recon and a flat tum!! Bonus!
Id encourage you to work and keep on as normal as you’ll need time after you’re op to recover and whilst you don’t feel ill now you can keep busy doing everyday things. Its hard I know but you can’t change what has happened to you, so be positive and remember you’re not alone. We are all here whenever you need a rant cry or moan. Hugs xxx
Thanks for your support. I am finding it difficult to carry on as normal at present but I am sure your right and thats what I need to do. I pray and hope that they can remove all the cancer then I can be as brave as you and offer support to others ,as you have done me. I have never had a operation so as you can see I am all nerves. Good luck for the future.
luv Janey
Janey I understand its an extremely worrying time. Once you’ve spoken to the onc and have a plan you’ll feel a lot better. I am not brave, I just have no choice and I’m not going to give up just yet 
I’ve found the support and strength gained from others much further down the line on this site a god send. Also in the early days, amidst scans, tests, waiting etc I used Bach Flower Remedy drops and they really helped calm my thoughts. I’d definitely recommend them from Boots.
If you have to have an mx please message me and I’ll help anyway I can. Three months ago I couldn’t have imagined I’d have come so far, and you’ll get there too. I still have 4 chemos left and rads but its all doable.
Take care xxx
hi janey
i agree with melrose 15, i had mastectomy and anc 12 nodes removed, ive got one more chemo to do and then radiotherapy, but my lump was rather large too and the nodes were dodgy so… but i went back to work whenever i could, even inbetween some of the chemo, its normal life then you see, not all about being ill, its a mental thing as much as its physical, thats my opinion anyway.
as for being a wimp, been there, done that, all of us. you will pick up strength that you never knew you had.
#good luck#
take care, angie xx
Hi Janey I was diagnosed on the 14th June had wle and snb on the 11th of July, I have to go for my results tomorrow at 2.15pm. I was told before surgery that it was 1.5cm invasive ductal carcinoma. I will find out tomorrow if they got clear margins, any lymph node involvement, the grade and what my treatment plan will be.
Dont think I will get much sleep tonight, but in a way it cant come quickly enough. My doctor signed me off work on the 19th of June I am okay around people in my own house, but I work in a nursery and some of the young girls I work with can be quite emotional.
Wishing you all the best for your surgery
Maggie x
Hope it all goes ok for you tomorrow maggies, know how you feel I was awake all last night as had ct results today, was expecting worst, but all went well, fingers crossed for you, take care xx
Hope the best for you Maggie and today turns out to be bright
janey
Hi Janet I am so sorry to hear your news my thoughts and prayers are with you.It is all very scary at the moment but you will get through this and we will support you. Best wishes b x
me too I am newly diagnosed as of last Friday and waiting to return to the consultant for results and plan of action…Friday cannot come soon enough x
Thanks B for your words comfort…Take care
Janey x
Good luck to all who have answered me…we will get through
Janey x