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Hi there, I have read through a lot of the forum letters and I feel really selfish now. My mum was told she had breast cancer when she was 32., while I was a the age of 12. I watched her suffer through all the theatments with nothing more than bravery, but then to be told in the few moths of remission and peace that the cancer had spread and there was nothing they could do. She died at the age of 36. I was 16, my brother was 21 and my sister was 6. I am now 26 and have spent my life pushing everyone away so they will never have to see and suffer what my mother went throgh. I have spent my life thinking if not assuming it will happen to me. I can not get out of my head the suffering my mother went through for these years,and I have seen the effect of losing his wife on my father and he has never, or will ever recover from.My fear is that I have that gene and history repeats itself. I have been offered gene testing in the past and I declined, but I feel I now need to know where I stand. I am not sure if other family members have had breast cancer, but my mother was only 32 when she was Diagnosed . I just really do not know what to do? My other main main concern is that it will skip me but my wee sister as the gene. What are we supposed to do? Does anyone have any advice for me?
Tracy
For Tracy Hi Tracy
First of all, you must not feel selfish. Many people have the same feelings as yourself, we know this at Breast Cancer Care due to the number of people who have contacted us with similar fears and questions as yourself.
I would suggest that you go and speak with your G.P. or one of the G.P. team at your local surgery who you feel you can discuss this with and ask to be referred to the Family History unit at a breast clinic in your locality . Your G.P. should be able to advise which in his/her opinion is the best clinic to go to. If you have the same G.P. as your Mum this may also help. I have included two internet links which may help you if you take a look at these before you speak to your GP, these are: www.nice.org.uk/page.aspx?o=CG014 and www.breastcancercare.org.uk/docs/familial_breast_cancer_update_may_06_0.pdf
I would say do involve your sister and your brother if you feel you can talk with them about this, so you can all be included in any screening that you may be offered.
If you feel you need to speak to someone in confidence about this, please do not hesitate to contact Breast Cancer Care freephone Helpline on 0808 800 6000 which is available Monday to Friday 9am – 5pm and Saturdays 9am – 2 pm.
With best wishes,
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