Not feeling valued

My partner is a musician and he has a new singer/partner , this is a woman I have never met, I am not jealous just feel abit put out, I had chemo weds last of 6 so side effects kicked in not pleasant. He went out to 3 am with her, which is fine except he did not text or call to check I was ok and said he was having a good time so didn’t think too, I was very upset and it made me feel a bit sick, I aso have 2 children (15 and 12) who aren’t his biologically and this weekend  one weekend I thought he would, we talked about it, sort out food for kids I had already brought it in,  I had to prompt and finish the meals and also give him my bankcard to get more as we live finacially separately.  I am feeling very undervalued he is pleasant to me and kind.  He is off to Spain  for a long weekend this week so maybe this will give me some perspective, but right now I feel that I would be better on my own, as I am struggling with him being so tight money wise and making me feel less than,  ( this bit is more complicated but it is about sex if i intiated it is always no) sorry it just seems that going through this has highlighted issues already there.  I aqm a bit of a control freak so struggle not being able to do stuff.  

 

Thanks 

Hi Carla ,sorry you are feeling fed up .I think cancer treatment puts the best of relationships under pressure and it does highlight any vulnerabilities that were already there.You are nearly at the end of a really tough time, maybe give it a bit of time to see how the dust settles ?

Thank you our bedroom is also his office and he says he can’t work if I am in bed so go between living room and my daughter’s room I really need to think xxx