Opinions sought re., work

Opinions sought re., work

Opinions sought re., work I was dx in jan 2004, grade 3 11mm tumour, lumpectomy, no node involvement, chemo, rads, tamoxifen.
I returned to work in NOV., 04…rather a forced decision as they decided i was no longer entitled to ICB as in their words ''its only the cancer that bothers me ‘’!!
i work in a childrens day nursery with 0-2’s, i was deputy, but didn’t want that position on returning, also returned to 3 days a week and have now dropped to 2 1/2 days.
Thing is i still don’t have enough time to spend with my grandchildren, family and friends, i always seem to be rushing around.
even though i’m only working 2 1/2 days i feel i’m still relied on too much at work, there are also other issues there with the new manager.
i suppose what i want opinions on is, do i give up work [which would mean tightening our belts financially] now and enjoy my grandchildren etc.,…or carry on indefeinetly…??

i suppose i’m a little thoughtful at moment as my friend is dying from bc, and my aunt has bone mets 15 yrts after being dx.

any opinions would be gratefully appreciated.

that’s a difficult one.
i agree that you are probably being more thoughtful of things at the moment with friend and family being unwell.
i could not afford to give up work, nor would i want to as i don’t have a busy life like you. work is my saviour.
can you afford to give up, would your life be fullfilled. pehaps now if there are problems arising with new manager you could say life is to short to be miserable in work.
could you find something with less hours, a day a week or two, perhaps in a shop if you would be happier with a bit of money for yourself.
hope you find a solution.
sharon. x

Working, or not Hi Karen
Not going to bother with my history as it’s all in my profile. I had a stressful supervisory position pre-dx and have been suffering from depression since treatment. In June my employers terminated my contract due to my continuing absence through ill-health, and since then I have been given a small pension. Still on IB and my husband recently became a pensioner, we only have one grandchild who recently moved to Scotland with his parents.

If I were you, I would spend as much time as I could with my family and friends and stop working in what seems to be a job you enjoy, but are presently getting a lot of hassle from - you don’t need it (the hassle!)
You may have to ‘tighten your belts financially’ but your grandchildren are very special and it would be lovely to spend quality time with them.

You could perhaps give up your job, have some time out with the people you love, then either do voluntary work/different p/time job if you feel you need the stimulation. I find that my priorities have changed a lot since my dx; my husband has health problems and I am happy just for us to spend time together, we don’t need lots of money to enjoy each others company.

Granmum