Partners biopsy
Partners biopsy Well were back from the biopsy i was there with her when they took it, iasked to see it and i havnt told her yet but it was all brown didnt look healthy at all. We have just got to wait for the results now. Shes quite sore and is going to take some time out. Ive got to go to work but i feel guilty leaving her at home.
Do you think i should tell her what i saw? or wait until we get the results. I feel really confused about the whole thing i love her so much.
thanks
Hi
I had ten cores taken on two occasions and to be honest the actual tissues looked a sort of average grey coour. My FNA was black when it came out and they could only get less than about 0.1ml in the syringe.
I honestly don’t think there can be any way of telling from what you saw, if it was that easy then we would be told our diagnosis at the time by the person taking the cores. If it was my OH I would rather they kept it to themselves as they could be barking up the wrong tree, so to say!
I can understand how worrying this time must be for both you and your partner. It wasn’t that long ago that I was going through the same thing, my hubby didn’t get to see them take FNA or biopies as he was works away from home, he was there when I got my results and diagnosis though.
I think all you can do until the results are back, is be there for your partner and support them as you are and listen to their concerns - you will both get through this together, as you will both help and support each other.
Good luck with the results. When are they due back? I had to wait about 10 days each time.
Lynn x
being there I know you must be so concerned and worried that every scenario wil be going through your minds. remember a biopsy is of tissue etc - my first 4 were all fat!! I had to have more done under ultra sound guidance. i didn’t see these, but heard the consultant saying - yes we’ve got what we want - I obviously didnt know how to take this - did he mean they’ve found cancer or just that he’d got the right bit of tissue? I tried hard not to think about it as if I had I’d have driven myself mad.
You’re partner will probably be relieved that this step is over and done with for now - if she’s anything like me, she’ll want to try and get on with her life (as well as possible) over the next cople of weeks whilst awaiting results. Its not easy but I found that I didn’t want people talking about it all the time. My OH understood how I felt but was also definitely there for me to chat to whenever I wanted or more importantly for me, just to have the hugs when needed!
I personally can’t cope with sympathy and prefer to try and take each step as it comes. You will know your partner and what support she needs. You certainly love her and the most important thing is that she knows you’re there for her.
One last piece of advice - dont swat up on the web sites about breast cancer - they can terrify - everyone is different and even if like me the results are malignant, the prognosis doesn’t have to be anywhere near as bad as sites can make out. It is treatable - stay positive yet realistic.
Good luck
Jackie
Hi little 1
It’s a difficult one and all depends, I suppose, on what type of relationship you have and your normal levels of honesty.
It may help to ask the following questions.
Do you think you would want her to tell you if the roles were reversed?
How do you think she will feel if you cause her to worry and everything turns out ok?
Is she the sort of person who prefers to put things to the back of her mind or would she prefer to go back in with some realistic view of what she may be told?
How confident do you feel that what you saw looks ‘bad’? Is it based on knowledge of what tumours look like or just gut instinct?
When I was diagnosed I had an inkling that it was cancer because I had noticed puckering on my breast, suggesting that the lump was fixed. I knew from reaseacrhing online that this was a bad sign. This helped me cope a bit better with the news because it wasn’t a total shock.
However, it was my decision to go online and research what tumours look like. I’m not sure if I would have been pleased if my partner had told me he thought it was cancer because of what he had read.
To be honest, I don’t remember what mine looked like - it’s all a bit hazy. What I do remember, though, is knowing once they did the fine needle aspiration that it wasn’t a cyst as they tend to burst and leak fluid once the needle goes in.
Good luck in your decision. Whatever the outcome, you have already demonstrated how much you love her by even coming here and asking the question.
I hope her results turn out benign. Please let us know.
Lola x