Hi all,
I am almost 13 weeks pregnant and was diagnosed today with grade 3 invasive ductal breast cancer (the tumour is 2 cm). I’ve been scheduled for surgery in a couple of weeks once they’re happy that I’m far enough into my pregnancy so the general anaesthetic won’t harm my baby. I feel in a daze and I wondered if anyone else is going through breast cancer while pregnant? I also have a 3 year old daughter.
Cass xx
Hi Cass79 and welcome to the BCC forums, I am sorry to read of your diagnosis and am sure you will find support and shared experiences here to help you
Our helpliners are on hand with practical and emotional support on 0808 800 6000, lines are open 9-5 weekdays and 10-2 Saturdays so please feel free to call to talk any concerns over
Here’s a link to support and information from BCC specifically aimed at younger women along with information about breast cancer during pregnancy which I hope you will find helpful:
breastcancercare.org.uk/younger-women
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi cass x no experience with this but just wanted to send you a virtual hug xxx please try to take some reassurance that your clinical team will be monitoring you very carefully and you will be in good hands xxxx you might also have some other people who have been through this on younger women with breast cancer forums ( I’m 45 so at the top end!) - there is a local group to me and whilst I haven’t been as an having chemo they seem very supportive xxx hugs xx
Hi Cass, so sorry you have joined this club and especially whilst pregnant. You are in very good company here as the ladies are a wealth of knowledge and very supportive so pls feel free to ask questions, air feelings or just rant. We’ve all been there.
I wasn’t pregnant when diagnosed but a friend of a friend was 20 weeks she got the news. She was induced at 35 weeks and started chemo 2 weeks later. Now a year later she has finished all her treatments and is getting on with her life with 2 gorgeous kids and very supportive family.
hugs xx
Thanks so much. I keep going from feeling really positive to bursting into tears…although some of that might be pregnancy hormones! I’ve been given an appointment for a mammogram on Monday but I’m not really sure what for, maybe to look for other suspicious areas? I only had an ultrasound before. Xx
Mammogram may give them a much clearer picture of what is going on. I wouldn’t say they are specifically looking for more lumps although they would see them if they were there. I would say they just want a clearer picture of what’s going on. Here they did my mammogram and ultrasound at the same time. I did have my mammogram first then in to the ultrasound so the man who did the ultrasound was looking at the mammogram too. I am not sure if you will have someone look at it then if you aren’t seeing the ultrasound man too.
Hi cass - you will probably be given a follow up appointment for the following week where they will discuss the ultrasound and mammogram - they might check the mammogram same day with an ultrasound specialist who might want to do biopsy - don’t worry about these …xxx hugs again xxx
Hi Cazz
I am far from pregnant though podgy enough to pass for a good 7 months.
I can hardly imagine what you must be feeling.
Your life will be turned upside down and you know that. This reminds me of when I had a caesarean and a friend of mine had a hysterectomy both on the same day. For 6 weeks she wasn’t allowed to do much more than lift a kettle where I was at home with a 10lb baby! It felt very odd - unfair almost as she was being mollicoddled and I was having to get on with it. Hardly the same as i said can hardly imagine.
I am making a huge assumption that you might feel the same once your wonderful little one is here and you are fighting this b****r. You will hear people telling you to take it easy but you will have 2 little people dependent on you so will probably want to be super mum. Well be super Mum but don’t be everything else that goes with it.
On a serious note though if you have a drain fitted explain to your little one that they need to watch Mummy’s side. I ended up with my drain caught on a friends over friendly cat (nearly launched said cat through window) and am sure a loving little one might be similarly unintentional.
sorry for the Mumsie lecture
huge hugs and masses of virtual love
Ros
How u doing Cass? Just checking in x
Hi Cass, I’m so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I think I may be able to help you a little. There is a brilliant charity called Mummy’s Star for women diagnosed with any kind if cancer whilst pregnant. They give emotional support, information, small grants and have closed chat forums to help you find others in your position. I addition, I run a young women’s support network on Facebook. There’s over 1500 members in our private chat network now. We have a designated group for dx during pregnancy and there are lots of lovely photos of mums and babies who went thru chemo /surgery whilst pregnant and who are very much alive to tell the tale. There is loads of advice and support in there and the ladies are lovely. Breast cancer care have an info sheet for women in your position and if you read it, it recommends us and tells you how to find us. Here’s the link, and all the very best. Women and babies DO get through this ok xxxxx
Thinking of u today Cass x hope all ok and the facebook group looks like it will b a big help to u xx
Thinking of you today Cass xxxx
Well done Cass, it’s a big relief to have the op over with, I’m 13 days post op and off for my results this afternoon so although I’m glad the day is here Im a bundle of nerves and still sat in bed , hubby says he will crow bar me out if he has to! He may have to carry me in as Im shaking so much,silly really as I know I’ve got BC and what grade from biopsy but Im sick of going to the breast clinic, I’ve had so many messages today wishing me luck and love that I’ve wanted to sling my phone out the window! I know everyone means well but I just wanted to be left alone to wallow, hopefully will be back on later feeling lighter hearted and posting some positive news fingers crossed, love Jo xx
Hi Cass, glad your op is over. The waiting is horrible, but it will go quickly, you have lots to keep you going with a 3 year old. But make sure you get plenty of rest when you can., I have been crossing days off on my calendar since Feb and looking back it has gone quickly (needing a new sick note now, I’ve been off 6 weeks!) Sending hugs xxxxx
Hi,
I haven’t been on this forum for a long time but just happened to be browsing tonight and I saw this thread. I was diagnosed with bc at 13 weeks pregnant. I had chemo throughout my pregnancy and I gave birth to my daughter at 31 weeks. She weighed 3lb 3 oz and she is now a healthy 3.5 year old. I just wanted to give you some hope because I remember the horror when I was first diagnosed. I also had a 1 and 2 year old at the time.