Hi, I hope this is the right section of the forum for this if not admin please move it across.
I am 4 and a half years post bc and after 3 years of trying finally we are pregnant. This is my 3rd baby and my husband’s 1st (and last due to finance and terrible sickness). Although this is exciting and what we wanted I am struggling with a few things.
First the easier one that I am hoping someone might have a suggestion for. After having a mx left side I obviously only have one side growing in the pregnancy. The bc clinic can help with prosthetics to even things up along the way and later back down again but… with the current lockdown and the shops being shut I am at a complete loss on how to work out what size bra to order. I am bursting out the right side and can’t measure in the way that I could before mx. I can measure under bust but over. How do I work out what cup size to go for? All this would be so much easier if the virus hadn’t shown up and the fitting services were still running or even the changing rooms open. I have left it as long as I could hoping that by the time I needed one it would be a bit safer out. Any suggestions and thoughts much appreciated.
Second thing is nightmares. I know that the ultrasound scans have moved into the downstairs of my local breast clinic as it is a satellite building and safer away from the main hospital. Since I found out and as it gets closer to the scan on 26th May I am getting more and more nightmares. The letter says I have to go on my own. My husband is not allowed due to covid-19 restrictions. This is all well and good but in one of those rooms downstairs was where I was having a biopsy on the cyst and subsequently the lump that was found behind it by ultrasound. That was the moment, before they had even confirmed it, that I knew I had bc. I am now absolutely terrified of going in that room again all on my own. I was on my own when they found the lump deep by the chest wall as I thought it was just a cyst drain like the 2 times before. I am terrified that if I go in on my own, like in my dreams, they will tell me something is drastically wrong with the baby or that there is a cancer there or that I have to terminate to save my own life or something drastic like that. The dreams are getting worse and there is nothing I can do about it. I know it would just be so much easier with my husband there holding my hand for moral support but I know they will be strict with the covid-19 rules they have in place.
I don’t know what to do about either but I think the bra issue might be easier for you all to help out with. On the second one I just wondered if anyone else has had similar experiences pregnant or not. I would talk to my husband about my anxieties but he is suffering so badly with his ASD anxiety and his boss wanting him to return to work 1st June at the school that I don’t want to tell him my anxieties and add to his. He’s suffering enough at the moment as it is. That’s why I thought I would air on here with people who have been through it.
Thanks
Red Robin