My 37 year old sister a mother of two one 6 and one 4. Found a large lump (described as the size of a tangerine) in her breast last week. She was advised that it was probably a cyst. She wondered how she hadn’t noticed it before. She waited a week for her appointed tests. She had also noticed a increase insize over that period. She insisted on going to the hospital alone as her glass was half full!! From what I can gather after several hours she was told that they were 95% positive she had cancer and would need a masectomy as all the nodes they had tested were infected. This was a complete shock to her, and it seemed to them. She now has a scan on the 20th of April to see if there has been any spreed. She doesn’t want to talk and her husband was to upset to give me any information. (she lives in Chesire and I’m in Cornwall along with My mum and dad) She has now gone off the radar having gone to Wales to get away and process this information. She has spoken to my Mum and is already talking of making video’s for her children. Obviously that sems like worse case, but is there any hope, please someone tell me there is…
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I’m very sorry to hear about your sister and I’m also so sorry to hear that she isn’t there for you to talk to. Understandably, her main fears will be for her children. I have one sister and cannot imagine how she sees all of what is happening to me. All I know is that it is very hard for everyone but I very much hope that you will have good times together yet. She will be in a terrible place right now but she is with her family trying to come to terms with incredibly painful news. You will probably feel really frustrated that you can’t do anything. When people used to be desperate to help me, I used to say, just say a prayer. That’s all I can say to you now too. Cancer is devastating but life has to go on for as long as it can. Keep posting on here, you will have lots of support.
I have bone mets and a few other scattered around the place. I was diagnosed with the whole gaboosh in August 2007 and still doing well so try not to panic yet. We are all different in this game and we can’t generalise but there are plenty of us who somehow, thanks to treatment, are managing to keep living a ‘normal’ life. Hope your sister will be the same.
Best you can do is to make sure you have plenty of support and then, if your sister is willing and you can get to her, be as good a sister and as silly an aunt as you can be, while she is having treatment.
I hope you will find support on here from others going through the same as you.
Take care xx
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Sorry to hear about your sister’s bad news. It is probably devastating for all the family right now. As a former BC patient myself I really feel that it is at times harder for the family than the patient herself. I know that my husband and son found the whole BC saga harder to deal with than I did.
I just wanted you to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and there is always hope! 2 years ago I was where your sister possibly is now! (although I am aware everybody is different!)
I had 8 chemo, surgery and 33 rads, I had had 10 lymph nodes infected, but at the end of the chemo I had total shrinkage and the tumour had totally gone! surgery was necessary to remove the surrounding tissue. Now 2 years down the line my life has returned to ‘normal’.
I really wanted to say how good it is that your sister has a concerned family for support. I don’t know where in Cheshire your sister lives, but if it’s West Cheshire and the COCH, the BC unit is fantastic and I had an amazing consultant and I can’t speak highly enough of the care I got. I recommend that she takes full advantage of the support offered by the BC nurses if she is indeed at this hospital. It’s early days for her but if she does live near to me and at any time in the near future needs somebody to talk to please do access me on here.
In the meanwhile you have come to the right place for an unlimited supply of support and good advice!
Take care and I am sending my very best to your sister and your family
Regards Nicky