Hi I’ve recently had my diagnosis of breast cancer HR+ HER2- and just waiting the results of a second biopsy underarm node and CT scan.
I first had shooting pain 4 years ago at the end of rib 3 left side and 3 years ago the lump appeared. 2&1/2 years ago they just dismissed me from the breast clinic saying it was a boney growth. Now I know it was cancer and I’ve had it all this time. I’m scared and upset.
I have had this pressing feeling in my left chest, am sure there is a lump at the bottom of my chest under my ribs, radiating pain round my rib and under my arm. My heart pounds really hard. It’s so hard not to think about it - I’m desperate to start treatment as I’m in a lot of discomfort.
I’m upset they fobbed me off at the clinic and made me feel like I was wasting their time. I feel like I was stupid not to advocate for myself.
Just feeling shocked and really emotional, really sad. Worried for the future. thanks for reading.
Jumicat, so sorry to hear of your terrible experience and how you were fobbed off and not taken seriously. No wonder you’re feeling shocked, upset and worried. Waiting on results and in pain, it’s a very scary time. All the waiting around is very stressful. You shouldn’t feel stupid, you trusted the professionals to do their job, and they are the ones that let you down. Let’s hope they don’t let you down again.
It must be hard at the moment to think of anything else. We all have different ways of coping. Mine was binge-watching box sets, pizza and wine with friends, chats with a friend who’d been through it too, and mental health support over the phone. All I remember was how unreal it felt, it couldn’t be happening to me, why me? It’s very very hard, that I do know. The not knowing what lies ahead is tough. I really hope your medical terms comes through for you this time. If you have a Macmillan nurse maybe talk to them about emotional support, there might be charities, local groups that will be there for you. Wishing you all the best
Flowers and bees
Thanks for your message it is definitely such a stressful time. It is hard not to think about the best and worst outcomes. I’ve been trying not to think about the misdiagnosis and I’ve not told anyone so I get the “oh it sounds like they’ve caught it early” comments and not feeling ready to say that they didn’t
I have managed to find some activities that take my mind off it which is great, usually getting outdoors helps! Thanks again, I hope you are doing well.
Thank you, I am doing well… (sort of) though still adjusting to the new normal following the end of active treatment a couple of years back. You’re doing the right thing in terms of taking your mind off it all. Getting out when you can. I found night-times the worst and would fret in the wee hours. And yeah, some people around you will share their “words of wisdom” probably because they don’t know what else to say.
Good luck, I hope you have some answers soon and a treatment path that gets you on the road to recovery. All the best, Flowers and Bees
I’m so sorry you are dealing with all of this. Cancer is bad enough without the all of discomfort you’ve endured. I hope and pray things get better for you. Hugs.
That’s kind of you, hope everything works out for you 