I went for a mammogram and ultrasound a few weeks ago after finding a lump (my Dr said it felt like nothing sinister but would send me off. The breast surgeon also felt it and said it was nothing bad) I came away devastated when I was told this really did look like a malignant tumour. I have since had the results of the biopsy which showed IDC grade 3 . ER and PR positive. HER 2 neg. at the ultrasound the lymph nodes looked enlarged. They did a FNA which showed them as clean (they’ll check them again and again at op)
I have a mastectomy next week. I’m so shocked. I really didn’t think it would ever be this when I went to the Breast unit.I have 2 primary school aged children and I am so sad for them as I’m scared of leaving them.
I’m 45 years old. I have been told what treatment they expect I’ll have to do. Everyone says to stay positive but all I can think about is it’s too late/ spread somewhere else. I’m scared to be positive and jinx everything.
The BC nurse is so positive but I’m scared it’s just a front.
Im not sure why I am writing all this but just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. Xx
Hi there, try not to worry I have a simular story went along after finding a lump and was told there and then it was cancer I was on my own at the hospital so couldn’t take it all in, since then I’ve had a lumpectomy they have successfully removed two idcs and I start chemo next week. I also have two children 8 and 5 and if you can try and put a brave,face on for them even if you need to get upset when they are in bed/school. There’s loads of support out there if you need it. Just takes a while for it all to sink in. Xxxx
Hello ladies, a very warm welcome to you both, I know none of us want to be here of course but we all support each other and try and muddle through the best we can! These early days are the most frightening while you are waiting for results and treatment plan and try and take it all in, it does become a little easier once you know what’s happening add there will always be someone here who can answer your questions and share their story, we all know how you are feeling right now that’s for sure! Xx Jo
Hello Deesa,
I wanted to say hello to you. I was diagnosed today and am very scared too…we are similar ages…I am 47. I’m not in the same position as these other forum users, who are able to be positive and have come out of the other side, but I just wanted you to know that someone else ( on the very same day as you) has had a diagnosis and is in shock. I thought it might help to know you aren’t alone. My consultant has been really positive too and said I have the highest possible markers for this never appearing again after treatment.
I am here if you want to share the journey.
Again just wanted you to know are not alone. I was diagnosed a few weeks ago with spread to all lymph nodes. Was a non urgent referral from gp due to being 28. Waited two months for appt. I have a year old and a six month old. I have mastectomy on Monday and lymph node removal, then six months chemo, then radio. I think I’m coping fine, and actually I think the kids r what r making me cope fine. I need to be better to see them grow up. End of. I haven’t thought beyond the year of treatment. The thing that’s bothering me is losing my hair. But I’ve already went for wig consultation and the guy was amazing so I’m feeling much more positive. Luckily my kids r at an age not to understand or accept a very simple explanation of mummy is not well but will get better with lots of rest x
Hi new ladies sorry you have had to join us. I was diagnosed 1st Feb had lumpectomy 22nd didn’t get clear margins and 1/3 nodes affected. I had a skin sparing mastectomy 23rd March with immediate reconstruction. I know exactly how you feel those first few weeks are hard and your emotions will be all over the place. This forum will be a good great source of support. I am now waiting for my results so we can discuss treatment plan but I have already been told it will be Chemo and radiotherapy as my IDC is Grade 3 HER 2+. Big hugs x
Hi to everyone new and sorry you found your way to the forum, however as has been said it is a fantastic place for support. You are in what I think is the most difficult time as you are shocked, waiting for further results and in some cases have no firm plans just very scary, dark thoughts.
I was diagnosed 1st Feb and also went on my own for the results as it was the 4th biopsy the other 3 were OK but radiologists weren’t happy. I felt like my world had ended. I had breast conserving surgery however the tumour was much bigger than thought (how bloomim inconsiderate)with node involvement so I start chemo next week. I am 48, my children are 10. The waiting is the worst and it is much easier to deal with when you know fully what you are dealing with even if there is the odd curve ball thrown in along the way. We each find our way to get through because we have to, the world carries on around us and our children need us. I have found that the bcn, surgeons, oncologists etc gave been very direct and honest in their thoughts and recommendations which is exactly as it should be.