Hi @fairycake I’m so sorry that you have been plunged into this bewildering situation. You will find lots of support here.
I would hope that your consultant was trying to be sympathetic by suggesting that you spend time with your family and to take care of yourself until all tests are done, results are in and a treatment plan can be devised. In truth the consultant will not know whether your cancer has spread until he/she has the results of the MRI so isn’t giving you coded messages. Please remember that people do not die from Stage 1-3 BC and these days many, many women who live with Stage 4 cancer can live for many years, as if it is a chronic disease. But it is a big stretch at this moment to even think about Stage 4 although it is only natural to worry about it until the MRI is done.
Treatment for HER2+ is extremely effective and there is a lively community of ladies on the forum which you can find here HER2+ and need some buddies when you’re up to it. This is the worst time whilst data is being captured but it will end and you will be able to face the treatment with positivity.
Sending you a massive bear hug.