I’ve waiting all week for today and now I’m absolutely terrified of what their going to say and want treatment I will need. Is it normal to feel like this. People have said I will feel better once I have a treatment plan in place but I really can’t see that right now ?
Oh melia I’m thinking of you as I know exactly how you feel as am going through it all too right now. It’s totally normal to be feeling this way. Praying you have good results,
Big hugs
Nina xxx
Hi Melia, yes it is absolutely normal to feel terrified, I did. What time is your appointment? I hope you haven’t got to wait all day, I remember mine was about 4pm so it was a long old day to get through. If it is a late one keep yourself busy, clean out drawers, do some light housework, or if you work, do something mundane, anything to stay active and to try and calm your mind.
I know its hard to believe but you will feel better once a plan is in place. Not sure of what they’ve already told you regarding your diagnosis as im on my phone and its hard to look back, but if it is breast cancer everything moves so quickly after this meeting.
Im so sorry you are having to go through this. I hope the news is better than you are probably imagining it to be. Sending you a big hug. Love H xxx
Hi Melia,
What you are experiencing is quite normal, we’ve all been there & it does get better once this stage is over.
It is the uncertainty & fear that’s the worst part when waiting for results, but this does settle down when you know what you are dealing with & know what is going to be done about it.
Have you someone to go with you today?, also write down any questions & take a notebook to write anything down. You could also ask if you can record the consultation on your phone, it needs the dr’s consent, but most professionals are happy to do this.
Thinking of you today.
Let us know what happens when you’re ready.
ann x
I’ve already been diagnosed with breast cancer last week but had a further biopsy to check other lumps and calcifications the worst thing they could say to me is chemotherapy and that it’s spread anything other than that I think I can just about deal with. My app isn’t until 4.40 so it’s an even bigger nightmare waiting that long x
I’ve got a toddler to keep me busy today at least xx
Good luck Melia! This was me last week. I’ve still got to wait for more tests so no plan yet. Hope your day goes quickly. Keep us posted
Sarah xx
Thinking of you Melia…it’s pants…I’m just not that strongxx
So after the weekend from hell uve kinds got some news it’s invasive ductal biopsy come back as cancerous again so it’s been found in 3 areas now all in bottom half of breast. Getting mri in next couple of weeks to check if it’s in top half but looking pretty likely I’ll Nedd full masectomy. Said I prob although won’t need chemotherapy which is the best relief ever but again they can’t be certain until the mri and the op. Said I will possibly just need tablet treatment. It’s not in lymph nodes which I’m happy about but mri is to check this too. This time last week being told I would lose my breast would have been my idea of hell but after thinking the total worst I feel kind of relieved now that it’s not worse news. Thanks for all your support as always. Though nothing is certain about treatments am feeling a lot more positive and think I can beat this evil thing now xx
That’s great, Melia.
Although you will have more investigations, it is about ensuring you get the best treatment plan for your needs, to get it dealt with.
So glad you feel better now & you will deal with it & come out the other side.
ann x
Hi Melia - sounds like EXACTLY what’s happened to me and i’m off back to work next week 8 weeks post mastectomy - best wishes xx
Ah really Alex that is great news I think I spoke to you on my first post. Did u avoid radio and chemo? Did u Need an mri to. Am a little worried they may change treatment plans etc after that by trying to stay positive. My God I mean it’s still a complete nightmare but kind of the best of a bad situation. Gutted about masectomy I felt kind of ok about it yesterday but think it’s sinking in now. Glad Your feeling better xx
Hi Melia - yes i avoided both radiotherapy and chemo. I too bad a few areas in the lower area (original lump was found there) and then had an MRI which showed tiny scatters of it above too and also showed my lymph nodes looked ok - MRI is a great tool for this - so multifocal confirmed hence mastectomy. Pathology results showed all cancer was removed (all 10 scatters of it) and my lymph nodes were confirmed as clear. No chemo or radiotherapy - just take Tamoxifen daily x
Mine too was invasive ductal
That does pretty much same as me am praying hey don’t find nothing else lurking on the mri. They seemed pretty confident that the ultrasound would have picked up anything in the lymph nodes. What was the pain like with masectomy I’m such a wimp wlth pain. I think I’ll struggle more emotionally tho so happy they said they can reconstruct straight away. Is that it for your op as they said mine would be done over 2 or even 3ops but the majority done with the masectomy xx
Also how are you On the tamoxifen they said I’ll either get that or hercipin I think they call it. I know everyone’s different but have u had any bad side effects or anything as seem to be my boob twin ha x
same boat for me too…im amazed as mammogram showed nothing…mri spotted lots more and mastectomy next…im a wimp and just cant get my head around this surgery…not sure how im going to do this at all …(
Hi Melia - pain was ok if i’m honest. Just felt bruised for a couple of weeks and felt like had breast engorgement after you’ve had a baby and your boob is full of milk lol! The bruising went down nicely and if i’m honest the incision under my arm where they took the nodes was more sore - i walked about with a small cushion under my arm. My nodes were also normal on ultrasound and as i say they confirmed that after pathology. As far as Tamoxifen goes i’ve been on it 4 weeks and not really has any side effects at all apart from one or two tropical moments but nothing i couldn’t handle. Millie67 you can and will do it - i surprised myself how so much less stressful it actually was, Fear and uncertainty has a lot to answer for! You’ll be fine xx
Millie I think I’m still a little numb about it all at the minute it’s only 8 days since I found out i havw cancer but I know am going to be absolutely terrified when the time comes. I hate ops and stuff they make me feel physically sick. I’m. Scheduled for a counselling session next week as really need to get all my worries out instead of bottling them up. Maybe this could benefit you too ? Alex sounds like you’ve had/having a great recovery I hope I follow in your footsteps. Do they always take nodes this hasn’t been mentioned at all to me. Thanks for all the info such a good help to kind of know what to expect xx
Silver Lady that sounds amazing u recovered so quickly… I don’t think I’m that strong to Recover so well. Your so brave with the boob and chemo. Hope your fully Recovered soon. Also I think I’ll take full advantage of not.being able to do housework so I can get someone else doing it for me ha xx