Hi, I posted earlier today and must have posted on a closed thread…although I can see peaople have read my posts I cant seem to find any help. I have already posted around april time but because I have been in shock and poorly since my surgery and my diagnosis I did not feel strong enough to come on here. I posted today on a thread about delays in treatment. I would be grateful for some help and support. I dont feel up for rewritting my concerns just now but if anyone on here can find my posts that would be a help. It is about my oncology appointment being delayed due to cuts. I will check back later. Thanks AnneB
I won’t be able to help much Hun as I’m so early into it so nothing means anything to me yet but I’m
Sure some of the other ladies can help xx
Sue, you have really helped me today. I guess I will be able to tell you more after Thursday as all the words your using I have no idea what they mean xx
Hi Suzie,
promsed links
personneltoday.com/hr/steps-to-take-to-avoid-discriminating-against-cancer/
xxx
Well ladies, I am out shopping today my sister has dragged me out. Managed to buy myself a hoodie and some tops for the kids, might even manage lunch out aswell x
That’s brilliant Suzie, hope you have a nice lunch with your sister.x
Soooo pleased to hear that. Good on you & your lovely sis xx
So after a good day yesterday I went to sleep crying hysterically into my husbands arms. I’ve woken up feeling like crap this morning. After dropping kids to school and nursery and putting on a brave face I’m going round my friends where I will more than likely break down again. I’ve just had enough
Sue words it much better than I do Suzie, but do han on in there. Things will seem better after you’ve had your results Thursday. Only another couple of days to get through. There’s nothing wrong with crying your way through part of those days. I certainly did while I was waiting for the diagnosis I knew was coming. Just let those moments come and then pass, find ways to move on from the over thinking so you can have spells where you are doing normal things. Like having a day out with your sister. If you go to your friend’s house and get upset, make sure you are calmer before you leave. If it all gets too much shut your eyes and shut the world out for a bit. Whatever gets you through today so you are another day closer to Thursday x
So I’ve just left my friends house. As soon as I walked through the door she cuddled me and that set me off. First 30 minutes of me telling her I don’t want to die and prob had discussion around breast cancer for 1 hour then spent the last 2 hours discussing normal things and gossip which has made me feel really good. Still very scared that Thursday will tell me I have stage 4 cancer with everything spread x
Hi Susie, I’ve read your posts and want to reassure you that you are not alone with the shock you are feeling at the moment. We have all been there and I know that initially I felt the same as you. After my diagnosis I would cry at the drop of a hat, it all became so overwhelming and I thought I was going to die too! But I’ve just finished radiotherapy last week, I now take Tamoxifen, and apart from the soreness after radiotherapy, I feel great and very positive because there is a high chance that the cancer was actually gone when I had the lumpectomy. Breast cancer is very treatable and even since my diagnosis in February, I have already read 2 positive reports about further progress made with treatments. Do not contact Dr Google as you will read all sorts of things that will not help you at all! I am sure we all know several breast cancer survivors, I do, and I do not know of anyone among my friends/friends of friends who has not survived which is reassuring. I hope you will find the strength to be positive and good luck with getting your results on Thursday - I hope you will be reassured that it is not as bad as you are letting yourself believe. Take care. Michelle xxx
Suzie I’m glad you managed to have a good time with your friend. Hold on to that feeling good for as long as you can x
Thanks Michelle that’s a real positive response xx
Hi Suzie, thought I would pop into your thread having followed it over the last few days. I wanted to give you some positive feedback.
I went for a routine mammogram in Feb 2014 this was two days after my husband, who had been diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer in July 2013. He had surgery and chemo he is now 3 years clear, so cancer very much a scary word in our house. I had no symptoms so wasn’t worried, I got a call back letter 14 days later and still thought it’s ok cancer can’t possibly come to our house twice!!
I went for my recall appointment on my own I was so convinced I was going to be ok. I came out of that appointment being told I had breast cancer - the nurse only told me coz I knew by the questions they were asking and procedures they were doing (coz of my husbands treatment) that I said “I know you have found something and I would rather know so I can plan stuff”.
my journey home was filled with the same thoughts you are going through now and continued until I saw the surgeon 10 days later with “official results” telling me which type. It is ok to,feel the way you do - it’s normal so please don’t beat yourself up.
once you sit with the surgeon for results whatever they maybe it is treatable and they will throw everything at it to get rid.
This forum was my godsend during treatment because there will always be someone who is or has gone through what you are going or about to go through. We all,support each other and you can ask anything of us without judgement
you are never alone even in the dark nights - there is a thread I think called night owls set up by Delly so even when you think there is no one or you don’t want to wake the OH someone will be awake on here.
sorryfor long post but really feeling for you right now as I know what it’s like.
what time is your appointment tomorrow.
sending hugs
Thanks so much for the response. Tomorrow is the day if results so when I get home I am sure I will start a new thread and all help would be appreciated xx
Appointment is 4pm but said I could be down there for a while
Waiting as everyone finding out results on a Thursday afternoon xx
Hi Suzie I found the night time link. I have bumped it up for you. Go on the Living With and Beyond Breast cancer section. Then to Living with breast cancer and you will see the post Night Birds. Pop in tonight if you need to - we are all thinking of you and here to help you through whatever comes tomorrow. Xxx
Thank you. I am just feeling crap. Not crying anywhere near to the extent I was a week ago as I just feel like I cannot cry anymore, strange really x
So, biopsy results tomorrow, can anyone tell me what I should expect from this appointment (obviously I know they will tell me it’s cancer) but what else will be discussed and will I be told an operation date etc?
Hi Suzie. We haven’t spoken before as I’m a few months ahead of you but have just seen your Google post so popped on here to say hello.
It’s rubbish we all find ourselves here but tomorrow you will have answers and a treatment plan. When someone’s biopsy results come back as cancer before their appointment the results will be discussed at an MDT of multidisciplinary team meeting. There will be surgeons, oncologists, breast care nurses, radiographers and other people too who I can’t remember. They will come up with a treatment plan specific to the biopsy results. This is then discussed with you and appointments made with the necessary people. Things will move quickly and you will feel much better. I know it probably doesn’t seem like it now but it’s a relief to be doing something positive. Please let me know how you get on xxx