Hi Everyone,
This is a delicate subject for me. I had my mastecomy 5 months ago, originally with an immediate reconstruction however due to complications this had to be removed. This was a tough time adjusting to the way my body looked, but I worked through it and began to come to terms with this temporary, but new me.
My husband is incredibly supportive and reassuring, and we are trying to get thiings back on track intimately. The realisation of looking different has hit me again and I am feeling so selfconcious, but have also realised that my nipples played a big part in achieving orgasm. I have decided for now that I am going to wear my bra with softie insert 24hrs. Just wondering has anyone else feels/felt like this and how you are dealing with/overcame this hurdle??
Thanks in advance
Hi Dawn,
i dont think i have any magic answer but just wanted to say that I invested in a few silky , lace trimmed short slips that are reasonably flattering . I keep it on in bed. I mostly just keep the mastectomy breast hidden but allow my normal breast to see the light of day! Not ideal but it helps me get over my self consciousness and probably saves my husband from having a reminder of my cancer right in front of him! That said my sex life is pretty tragic due to many factors relating to my cancer. I think non existent libido, painful vagina and hot flushes are not conducive to a happy love life! Hopefully you have more enthusiasm than me!
wishing you lots of luck.
Kate x
Hi Dawn,
I dont think i have any magic answer but just wanted to say that I invested in a few silky , lace trimmed short slips that are reasonably flattering . I keep it on in bed. I mostly just keep the mastectomy breast hidden but allow my normal breast to see the light of day! Not ideal but it helps me get over my self consciousness and probably saves my husband from having a reminder of my cancer right in front of him! That said my sex life is pretty tragic due to many factors relating to my cancer. I think non existent libido, painful vagina and hot flushes are not conducive to a happy love life! Hopefully you have more enthusiasm than me!
wishing you lots of luck.
Kate x
I wish I could find some solution to this. It seems so long ( 5 years) since I have had nipples, that it comes as a surprise to me when I see them on other people. As for libido, I have as much as a can of beans… I feel very sad to have lost all this and to even be at a point where the idea of sex feels repellent ( nothing to do with my lovely , accepting husband). As the tumours were triple positive, there was not a lot I could do, but 48 still feels young to have lost all that.