Hi,
A quick intro about myself. My wife was diagnosed with BC in August. Lumpectomy, lymh node clearance, and the 4th chemo treatment completed last week. We’re relatively young, I’m 40 in June and my wife turned 37 at the beginning of December and now we’re very unlikely, barring a miracle to have children. But we’ve come to terms with that now, although at the time it added more tears.
Some or all of this has or will be repeated, but the initial diagnosis is terrifying. Not just for the person diagnosed, but your partner, family etc. Once treatment begins, the fears subside and you are doing something about it. Everyone deals witht he news differently, including your loved ones. Some people need someone to talk to while others bottle things up. there’s no right or wrong, but hopefully over time people will come to terms with what needs to be done.Side effects vary from person to person, none of them great. You will have moments where you break down. There will be times when you get fed up with answering questions about BC (just remember these people care and are curious too), it is good to try and live and talk about normals things though. From who you want to win Strictly or when you want to go and watch Star Wars!
There is no good time to be diagnosed or go through treatment, but this time of year people want to be fit and healthy and only worry about how much food and drink they’ll consume on Christmas day. You may think you can’t continue with treatment at some point, but with encouragement and strength you will do. You’ll realise how much you love and are loved by people and what they will do for you in this time of need.
It’s all as scary as hell, and I have respect for you all that go through this. But there are thousands like you who have, are and will go through this so use each other for support and you will find the strength to fight this bugger!
Sending love and hugs to you all. Have as good a Christmas as can be xx
Barry
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