I’m approaching 50, have ha primary breast cancer twice, lumpectomy in 2005 then a bilateral mastectomy in 2013 when it returned in both breasts, underwent chemo and have had reconstructive surgery.
My husband of 32 years works away. Most of the time he is pretty supportive but I’ve noticed lately this is becoming less and less. We seem to be drifting apart. He no longer finds me attractive ( I don’t really feel attractive) we rarely have any physical contact. In the last year I have found that he now looks at soft porn girly pictures and a few other issues regarding live females. When I try to talk to him about all of this he gets very angry and defensive and often ends in telling me to sort myself out and he can’t and dosent want to put up with my stupid behaviour anymore. Very often I get the blame, and I’m told I shouldn’t be snooping on his electronic gadgets! Not really sure where to go from here, contemplating councilling but I know this would be something I have to do on my own, he wouldn’t be here and if he was he sees it as me that has the problem and not us as a couple! Do you think council long may help or will I be wasting my money? ( or his money as he kindly reminds me, I haven’t been able to return to work since June 2013)
Any advise will be appreciated or contact with other ladies that have had a similar experience. Thank you ?
Rosie I am so sorry to hear of your situation it’s difficult to advise you, I guess BC effects men too in different ways.
If you go to your doctor they could help you with a councillor, it would be good for you to go and see someone.
I wish you all the best xx