There was a point a few years ago where she was such a big BAG for so long that we couldn’t take much more of it and at one point my OH was in tears and I said “whats wrong/??” and he said he felt really guilty because he’d been putting some serious thought into walking away from the whole situation, which would mean having no contact with his daughter, because he couldn’t handle it much more and he was crying because he felt so terrible at even thinking of walking away from his child.
IT was that point that I told him he must refuse to cave in to her behaviour and put the phone down on her after a warning if she started ranting and raving at him and refuse to engage in it.
It worked eventually but it took weeks!!!
El K, you need an emergency “kit”, and I have the list of things to go in it.
A large ball of wax. If you don’t have a large ball of wax, just get hold of an old candle. Or at a push, scrape all the Q-tips clean, or just stick your finger in your ear and rootle for a bit.
A large box of pins. Don’t worry if they’re rusty, the rusty ones are rather satisfying.
A bit of imagination regarding what to model with the wax.
The fun of sticking the pins (the rustier the better) into said wax model.
Ok, so you don’t have to get hold of the wax and the pins but you can certainly enjoy the thought!
(Dirty washing in public? And there’s a problem with that?!)
One of my mates once said the following to me “Lets all get dressed up in clown costumes, go round to hers in the middle of the night with baseball bats and beat her senseless. Then when she goes to the police and tells them she was asleep in bed when about 6 clowns burst in and beat her up with baseball bats that they’ll think she’s on drugs, test her, find out she IS on drugs and bang her up and then you get custody of child”
Well I spoke to him last night when he got back from work and explained that I really don’t want to give her anything because I don’t trust we’ll get it back, it’ll cause us loads of stress and ruin the relationship between us all thats been built up over the past year. If I knew we’d definitely get it back then I’d be happy to hand it over but seeing as her job is also temporary contract and she nearly didn’t have it renewed last time, if that happened she wouldn’t be able to give it back.
Also I said it’s not through hardship that she can’t pay the rent, it’s because she chose to have a holiday and spent her rent on that.
I also said to him that if she starts up about them possibly being evicted because of it that he should say shes not to worry because IF that happens then we’ll happily have his daughter stay with us again.
He’s agreed to this but doesn’t seem to want to call her! Think he’s waiting for her to call him about it. Avoiding confrontation much? l;-)
Glad u spoke to him hope she calls gets it over done with for a peaceful weekend I can’t see them throwing a child out because someone as got to house them yes like u say it’s her fault don’t we all wish we cld go on holiday and not pay the bills maybe if he don’t hear u cld say u will phone to get it sorted at least it’s one worry out the way hope u manage a gd wk end
Well, she said that her landlord has given her more time to pay now, so doesn’t need anything from us after all.
Nice to see she’s explored all options throughly before asking the people afflicted by cancer and lack of money
I said to my OH that he should have said “good job because we couldnt have given you anything anyway”
But he didn’t. I would have - LOL. ahem.
