Hi lovely ladies,
I was diagnosed in October 2024 with lobular cancer. I had a mastectomy, chemo and radio and now on Zoladex, Letrozole and potentially starting Ribociclib. I’ve just turned 44 and I’ve recently met a man and we get on very well. He has said he would love a family, something I thought I would have but never quite met the right person. I’ve told him I can’t have them myself but I’m open to other options. I wanted to know if anyone else had adopted after breast cancer or had other ideas if i wanted a family. I know it’s early days, and not something I would rush into unless I knew the person was right, and also know there’s long procedures and checks to something like adoption. Any feedback would be great, thank you in advance 
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Hi @lottie4
I just wanted to reply to bump your question so hopefully someone will see this!
My initial thought would be to speak directly to local adoption agencies in your area to see what their criteria would be? It may also be helpful to speak to cancer charities, either through Breast Cancer Now or maybe even MacMillan, to see if they have any general or legal advice to support you through the adoption process.
Best of luck, I hope it works out for you either way! X
Hi @lottie4
As part of an adoption assessment you would be required to have a medical. An Agency Medical Advisor reviews the GP and any specialist reports needed and provides whether a prospective adopter is suitable or if there are any contraindications. Having previously had breast cancer in itself would not rule someone out, it depends on how well they have recovered, impact on capacity to care for a child and prognosis as, of course, children requiring adoption need stability and long-term security. The medical is only one part of an in depth assessment and your local adoption agency will be able to give you further information. x
Edit: Long-term fostering could be another option to consider and provides a child with a permanent home. Some long-term foster carers then go on to become special guardians and obtain parental responsibility. Medicals are still required for fostering and SG assessments. x
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