Stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND) (Part 1)

Life after a breast cancer diagnosis Living with breast cancer
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YD has for tonsillitis so off to make some superbly duperly creative ceramics (ok a wonky mug) on my own tonight.
Like you JCJ I am too big to get any support from the genie bras. I did wear them after BC op but that was it.
I did manage to get the bedding dried today, just needs airing (as my mum would have said!)
Happy Friday all

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So much for the place to myself!! I had no sooner clicked ‘post’ on that last one when the doorbell went. (OK pedants! It didn’t ACTUALLY GO anywhere, but someone rang it!)  A friend we’ve not seen for YEARS, who had come around for a chat. He’s only just left. Really like him but really
? Couldn’t he have timed it better?? He’s only gone now because he asked me if i still go swimming and I said, "Yes,Thursdays, and I leave in half an hour! (Not going to go now because I’ve not even had any dinner yet!! - never mind enjoyed any of that glorious solitude!!  - *guilty conscience now doubled*)

 

Do you want me to knot (or even knIt?) a wonky mug cardy for your wonky mug, Kay? :smiley:

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Rained on and off all day so bedding ended up in the tumble drier but at least it’s now dry.

 

 

 I decided that I would go up into town today and have a look in the charity shops.  Hoped I might find a pair of jeans suitable for work.   I found two pairs of Per Una, sizes 12 and 14, looked as good as new.  Tried them both on, neither fitted, size 12  much too tight and size 14 far too big:smileysad:  Why don’t they make size 13?  Cheered myself up by buying 5 books:smileyhappy:

 

Car is in for it’s MOT tomorrow (can’t believe it’s a year since I got it) I hope it passes without costing a small fortune.  Need the money to spend on Sunday!!

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Won’t need to borrow grumpy’s bras woo hoo genies have arrived:smileyhappy:!! After tugging, pushing and pulling have managed to get it sitting nicely. Difference immediately underarm and shoulders def comfy
see how things go:smileyhappy:!

Per Una are funny sizes FF, what are you doing on Sun???

Aaaaaah JCJ peace perfect peace, well kind of once you got rid, terrible but when you are looking forward to quiet time and it’s interrupted:womanfrustrated: grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

I got one of my books yesterday too Jen, what you reading?

Kay wonky mugs and mobiles??? Pictures please.

Have worn 5 different pairs of shoes this week:smileyhappy:, have come over all creative (obviously catching?) and have decided to dye a pair, oh gee whizzzzzzz, trying to be superly duperly confident, I can do it??? Can’t I??? 

Will eventually move from the “CBA” bench today, when I can be bothered, gray and rainy here so not inspiring xx

 

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Aaah, so Per Una are funny sizes
 I thought it was me !!  Glad that the bras seem to fit you ok, there is nothing worse than an uncomfortable bra  ( well, yes there is but you know what I mean).  

 

Sunday is the day of the  Stitch/hobbycrafts fayre and I am certain to spend loads of money on beads, buttons, ribbons etc. that will be put in the craft drawer and may or may not ever see the light of day again:smileywink:

Daughter will spend loads of money on card making paraphernalia and Daughter-in-law will follow us around wondering which hobby to take up!

 

Sitting on the “I want my car back” bench  Half an hour until I can phone and find out if it’s passed or failed.  Patience
patience


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Car at garage for new winter tyres - £450!!! GULP!!! but essential up here


Snotty Dog is now making strange noises as she snorts away merrily: it must be a design fault, you can’t approach a dog with a tissue and say ‘BLOW’, they just lick instead!

Museum private view tonight, on Meet and Greet, so will have to iron a frock - or something.

grumpy

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Now on the " what a wonderful car" bench.  Passed MOT, nothing wrong and NO advisories.  Woo-hoo!!  Got it back in time to go to work so didn’t have to implement Plan B,  which was just as well as there WAS no Plan B.

 

Also on the TGIF bench as my back has been aching badly for the last couple of days so I will be glad to rest it tomorrow.  I can’t walk for much more than 100 yards without having to stop.  I think painkillers will be required on Sunday when I shall be on my feet all day.

 

Hope you all have a good weekend.

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Enjoy ‘Meet & Greet’ Grumpy!  How’s the kitchen coming on Kay?  I bought some red & white wool yesterday to make finger puppets which can double as Xmas tree decorations - ooh, wonder what they’ll be??

 

FF, getting new books always cheer me up too!  You’re welcome to join me in the Benchland holiday home this weekend, to rest your back in a reclining massage lounger with heated blanket & shelf of books nearby, close to the champagne fridge & chocolate fountain. Nibbles already stashed in the Tardis fridge.

 

I got 2 ordered books Katy, and couldn’t resist another 2 off the library shelves!
I started reading an autobiography  of the poet Dannie Abse.   Always liked his poetry since school & got him to sign a book for me at a reading a few years back. Also interesting to me as he talks about Wales’ social history, and some of the people he mentions I’ve crossed paths with too. Also got a book of his poems.

 
The novels are ‘The Blue Flower’ by Penelope Fitzgerald and ‘On the Black Hill’ by Bruce Chatwin. Will let you know what I think when I’ve read them!

Hope chemo isn’t too bad Benedictus
 and Supertrouper, where are you???  Would like to know all about Skiathos trip!

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FF, fab news about car, big sigh of relief, you will now be able to be very crafty:smileywink:!

grumpy, is expensive but if it keeps you safe, tyres are well worth it:smileyhappy:! How’s millie now??

Looked up books Jen sound good!!

CH, excellent you have rehomed your “boys”, now they can be as loud as they like!!

 

Well, dyed shoes, mmmmmmmmmmm, not sure, have given them 2 coats, now will they be better when I stick the glitter and rhinestones on???:womanwink: xx

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Hi Benchies, back from my travels!  The sublime (BCC Scotland fashion show) to the ridiculous (me trying to steer a canal boat).  I haven’t yet tracked back through all the zillions of updates in Benchland, but hope all are OK.

 

Katy I’m still on for Monday - will email you!

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On the Virtuous Bench, having spent the day sorting the garden, lifting, dividing and replanting
 and the spare plants have gone next door (hint
) for their front garden.

Hello Rev, welcome back (waves furiously)

The Snotty Dog is still snotty and bubbley but well in herself as they say.

Bedtime soon methinks

Grumpy

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Welcome back Rev!  We know who (not?)  to come to when we need a skipper for the barge between Benchland and DDW?! :smileytongue:

 

Spent the weekend so far alternating between the reading bench and the craft bench with my knitting and my Kindle (other
). Read Eye of Osiris by R. Austin Freeman.  Finished the guinea pig .

 

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Started knitting an elephant.

 

OH just rang - he was supposed to be volunteering somewhere - clearing some park or something - he’s broken down and wants me to take water and coolant to him, so I’d better get dressed! Why do I pay the RAC? :smileyfrustrated:

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You are clever JCJ so cute:smileyhappy:!!

Had a fabulous night, read book for a while, turned off the light and was still awake at 4 am, grrrrrrrrrr, have no idea what that was all about, but seemed to be flushing on and off for Britain:smileyfrustrated:, soooooo annoying!

Not too impressed with shoes
creativity well and truly over!

Quick nip over to supermarket and that will be me done for today, bottom firmly perched on the “slightly grumpy, moany, whiny cause have had no sleep” bench xx

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Shove up on the virtuios bench, Grumpy (is that the same as the Smug bench, or a different one?); I just defrosted the freezer and simultaneously ‘recycled’ a load of pears that were destined for the bin at school, because the kids won’t eat them, into chocolate pear cake: I can guarantee THAT will get eaten (and it won’t go anywhere near the fussy kids! :slight_smile: )  Freezer’s been needing doing for months and was on my to-do list for the summer hols, but I ran out of time due to decorating!  I decided I really MUST do it, before I do the next supermarket shop, to be able to fit any shopping in it around the ice bergs and heaps of fruit and veg from the allotment!  

 

I piled up the drawers full of frozen stuff outside, in the shade and breeze, with blankets over them. Mis- judged it, because the sun came around before I’d finished chopping the ice off the shelves. Race against time before everything started to thaw. Made it!! Phew!

 

Also stripped and re-made our bed and washed and hung to dry, and that’s all AFTER my mercy mission to rescue stranded OH from a roadside 5 miles away!!  (aw! shucks! No angel emoticon on here! :slight_smile: )

 

CBA bench here I come, that’s me done for today!

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Welcome back ST, glad you had a good holiday and good scan results!! :-) 

 

I think you should call the dog Gamoto (“gamm oh toe”) as, according to Google translate, that is Greek for Buggerit! :slight_smile: Sounds quite nice as a name too?!

 

I’ve hatched a cunning plan. Need to do the food shop, so I’ve suggested to OH that he meets me in Sainsbury’s ( blah blah blah) for dinner and I’ll shop after - it’s not good policy to shop hungry, one buys too much?! *innocent face*.

 

Hugs for your friend and all who are affected by her secondary dx. IFHC too! :frowning:

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Hi Ali-child-bride
 I wonder if all your fingers are bigger but you only notice it on your ring finger because it will be more pronounced there?  I can recall being told by a lymphoedema specialist that she liked people wearing rings as they were a good gauge of whether fingers were  swelling - I stopped wearing a ring (right hand) because it kept getting stuck!  Kathy and I first noticed swelling in our hands - the bit between the thumb and first finger - long before anything was dx.  I don’t know how it is where you are, but for me the first contact is my BCN - I mentioned my ‘tight’ ‘heavy’ and ‘achey’ arm and even though it was ‘only’ 2cm bigger than my good arm, she referred me for a sleeve.  The orthotics lady easily spotted it and said it was better to get onto it before it got significant.  There are humongous waiting lists here for specialist lymphoedemea nurses, but at least we have them.

 

So sorry to hear about your friend ST - it is a very cruel and unpredictable disease - hope she is getting good care.

 

Had a fun time with Katy today - she and I are going to pursue solo flushing careers now as we no longer synchronise as we once did!  The foot looked fine and she fair zoomed around in that chariot of hers!!  
I got a murder mystery jigsaw on CRUK shop - felt appropriately Benchland-ish!!

 

Oh yes, and the Commonwealth Games ballot gave me zero tickets :catsad:  In fact so far I only know one person in Glasgow who got any
 go figure!!

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Edinburgh about 1 hour from me, so definitely doable with a bit of notice :slight_smile:

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Had a lovely day with esteemed  and honorable RevCat, talking so much the time flew by and we didn’t manage the customary muggatea, but did have yummy lunch! Def solos for next Bencholympics, think I’m a winner:smileywink:!

Spotted RevCat sprinting, yes SPRINTING for her train was superly duperly impressed.

Think I have my totally dopey head on, whilst waiting for my train decided to phone ED chatting happily away my train came into station and departed, I was sitting on a bench only about 6 feet away
had to wait another 45 mins for the next one:smileyfrustrated:!!

A greek doggie, how lovely ST, soooooooo glad you had a fab holiday!

Ali, I’m an hour 40 mins away would be very nice to see you and the camels in the flesh especially as we now know you were a child bride xx

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Ali, Fish and chips, in the cafe was yummy, but I declined the ‘help’ with the shopping, because that usually entails OH disappearing goodness knows where with the trolley while I’m stood with arm loads of stuff. Or I spend more time explaining what we need, - and putting back the wrong items! - than I’d take if I did it myself, so I sent him home out of the way!! That way he was there to help me unload the car. :slight_smile: 31 years of marriage (I was an even younger child bride! :smileyembarrassed:) has taught me nothing if not how to best accomplish shopping and avoid him p***ing me off in public. :smileylol:

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Can I come to the Flushing Challenge??? Train to North of the Border quite easy from the Lakes


(whispers - I don’t really do flushing now, more a sort of warm glow and a light drench!!)

Snot report - Millie now has clear snail trails NOT green ones, thank goodness, but still bubbles when she breathes. It is most disconcerting to be woken up by these geyser noises at 3 am. Still, it’s better than the students yelling and swearing and vomiting in the street
 I had to march in to their hostel and explain (very sweetly i.e. without the Big Lads from the residents committee) that it’s not on, we want them to feel welcome, quiet family/retired neighbourhood, you’ve had one strike next strike you’re out, police have logged the event etc etc, all in my best school teacher more-in-sorrow-than-anger voice. Hmmmm - community liaison meeting for village and uni tomorrow will be fun.

Not had any tea yet, so I think it will be jam donuts and a tincture


Lyn just ‘prickles’ without swelling so  reckon the massage is working, hurray.

grumpy