I’m so sorry to hear how you’re feeling. I totally understand. I was diagnosed shortly after my 61st birthday with oestrogen/progesterone positive bc in October 2023. I have found it incredibly hard to come to terms with mentally! I am coming out the other side now. I had a strenuous job also as well as looking after my 96 yr old father along with my brother! I have had a hard decision to make and have decided to retire and try to look to the future! Cancer really makes you reassess your life! I really think you need to contact your gp as they are really helpful when you have so much on your plate! Maybe try some sort of exercise as that does take your head away from your troubles for a while! Acupuncture is good too! I feel incredibly lucky that they caught it so early so thank goodness for mammograms! Take care and big hugs. I hope you find some peace soon. X
I wanted to say a big thank you to everyone who took the time to reply to me. I am a few weeks down the line and feeling altogether a lot better. There have been some revelations which have upset me, and some understanding of the situation we ended up in which made me feel truly awful (related to my cancer and reconstruction). I do reckon if we had had counselling we would have got through it despite the distance, but I can’t change things.
I’ve been spending a lot of time reflecting, and am now feeling happier in myself. No man who can’t accept me for me, including everything I’ve been through, is not right for me.
Work wise, things haven’t picked up - yet. But I have a few things that I am waiting to hear back on so hopefully I will have some more work soon.
To anyone struggling - things do get better xx
Thank you for updating us - it’s good to hear from you and that you are feeling better in yourself and coming to terms with the end of your relationship . You are right - you deserve someone who can accept you as you are and everything that you have been through .
I hope that something good will happen for you soon on the work front . Xx
Dear @Spanna74, it’s great to read that you’ve been feeling better over the past few days. Thank you for your comment to anyone struggling too.
And thank you to everyone who has written supportive messages in this thread!
A reminder here for anyone going through a challenging time - our helpline is available to chat things through (freephone 0808 800 6000), as are charities like Samaritans (on phone 116 123).
Sending positive thoughts your way
Bernard