I have just been diagnosed with bone mets. I am 38 and my mum only 62. She is beside herself with “feelings”. Her mum died of BC in 1972 at the age of 50. Its so hard for her. She lives about 2 hrs drive away and cant drive to come and see me/help whenever she wants. I dont know what to do to comfort her any more. I think she needs somebody other than me to explain things, tell her I am not going to die etc. But she doesnt have any real friends where she lives as she moved there about 5 years ago and has been occupied looking after my brothers kids. My dad and brother are great at practiacal things but not so good at taliking.
It’s always hard on Mum’s when their children are ill, and it really doesn’t matter how old they are! My Mum used to say the hardest part was when we got too old to be able to kiss the hurt better.
Maybe your Mum could go to a support group, where she can meet others, maybe get involved and help out? I think part of it will be she feels so far away and helpless, so if she can help others in similar positions to you, then it might help her.
When I was diagnosed I ordered publications from here and other sites for my daughters, that way they had something to read up on.
otherwise, just a hug for you both, I’m sure as time goes on she will adjust and see that you’re doing ok.