I have just had surgery a week ago. Lumpectomy with 2 lymph nodes removed and awaiting full pathology results in a week.
My husband is being incredibly needy to the extent that I am having to reassure him constantly and I feel inordinately that he is doing a good job of looking after me. I feel that it is all about him. I happened to mention today that one friend in particular has been supportive in a way that I had not expected and he has taken it as a slight that I do not think he is caring for me adequately.
Help. I don’t feel I can deal with all this as well as everything else. Anyone else having this sort of thing to deal with?
Hello and welcome to the forum where you will get help and support from the lovely ladies on here.
Firstly there is a thread called Going Through Treatment which might be of help to you when you get your results. Let us know how you get on and we will provide you with whatever support you need
It is always difficult because whilst we are trying to come to terms with what we has happened to us and what we are going through, we are having to support our loved ones and friends to come to terms, but this is all about you and what you need to get you through this
Your poor hubby is obviously trying to come to terms with your diagnosis and is scared for you both. Perhaps you could at some point say to him “you know it was so lovely to have suppofrt from your friend because that is nice but you are so grateful that you have him there and how he looks after you”,
One thing is that you have all us lot on here, we get you and have all in some form or another experienced similar issues, you can rant, rave, cry whatever with us in a safe environment