Jill you are Zayn!!! Xxx
Bugger ,better work on my singing voice and quiff…
Dawn ,you need to get your son on board ASAP to help support you .Lads not the best at looking after people (I have 17 yr old ),but if he realises how much you need his help I bet he will come through.Get as organised as much you can this weekend ,you can stay in hospital until you feel strong enough to do the basics for yourself they won’t kick you out of the door unable to look after yourself. ladies who have had lumpectomy have stayed in overnight until they felt well enough to go home ,so I’m sure you will be able to stay until you feel like you can manage a bit better with some support.I think you could do with talking to some ladies who have had a mastectomy as they will give you a better idea of what to expect,I’m sure one of us will be able to connect you with someone who you can talk to. It is horrible to have to ask friends for support, I have always been the one who supported others hate ,hate being dependent on others ,but this is the time to call in all the favours / support you can get .You can pay them back when you are well. Jill .
June perhaps you can ask your friend tomorrow who had the mx what to exoect for Dawn?
Thats the spirit girl age is but a number. Like the idea of wine guzzling at La Tasca!! Viva Espana!!!
I’m out for a few drinks tonight:-) Will toast our 6B club. In it together whatever the weather! Sun Rain or sleet, Our Loyalty cannot be beat(en) Well it nearly rhymed!!! ?
Yay! 6B sounds even better, I do like even numbers, slightly ocd!!! X
Dawn, I had a lumpectomy but I did consider a mastectomy at some point (it wasn’t offered to me, but I would probably have chosen it). I interrogated a relative lot of people: the general consensus is that it’s not painful, less than a lumpectomy in fact (and I can tell first hand, although not completely painless, such operation is utterly bearable even for a massive wimp like me). For the recovery, the opinion differ slightly: some people were active almost immediately, some stressed that it’s better not having to do much for a while. Enrolling domestic help for the first week or so could be an idea maybe? Anyway, the op seems physically almost a walk in the park. So, don’t worry too much about that.
On a different note, I’ve bought this: amazon.co.uk/Smile-Die-Positive-Thinking-America/dp/1847081738 The first chapter is about the forced positivity of the lore surrounding breast cancer, the attempt at normalising it, etc etc. Not consoling and not for everyone, but it utterly hit home for me. I am a very naturally cheerful person but I hate feigning positivity when everything goes pear-shaped – it drags me even more down. I am glad I read that chapter…
I am feeling slightly better today, went to see the shrink and issues were uncovered, feelings were untangled, decisions were discovered. Oh man, at least one therapy that it’s immediately working!
nite my beautiful 6Bs xxxxx
green tit
Wow!!
Singing “think Ive found what Ive been looking for”
Thank you all
I was so busy yesterday that I only managed to log on now, its 5.30am ( took my son to work!!)
I feel Very happy to be a part of your group…
How about little tit!! Because I am a little tit sometimes.
By the way I am typing from iphone and Ive left my glasses down stairs ( again)
I too could have punched a few friends its pure comerdy what some people have said to me.
Prehaps we should write together a small book advising everyone what not too say!!
It would save other women having to punch thier friends…
I have been off from work for the last 3 weeks my surgeon is 49, single, she told me to spend has much time as possible having fun!!
I like her, I did tell her I am staying in hospital for as long as possible because I am on my own and the only insurance I have pays me 40 a night!!
Well there has to be some advantage of having cancer
I surpose its just my way of dealing with it, trying to maintain a sense of humour for has long as poss.
It still doesn’t feel real.
In boots yesterday I had to take back my new electronic tooth brush, when the manager told me I couldn’t have it till Wed I cried!!
Told him I had cancer and I was having an operation
On Monday.
Poor bloke, he,s going to deliver it when I am home…
And my fellow band members, I am not an in door person I play golf 3-4 times a week, won 2 big comps last week…Apparently all great sports people finish at the top of their carea…
So I decided I have to spend my time wisely, so I bought a book on how to win the lottery…
Well thought it couldn’t harm, could be lucky…
So how about when I get the big one, I take us all on holiday private plane, with very attractive men with silver trays serving us…
Singing not in tune
" Dreams can come true"
Good Morning to you all, thank you for the huge welcome…
Have a Good Day all of you
Alison xxxxxxxx
Missmore I am new to chatting online
How do I add you and all of you had friends xx
Good morning Alison!!!
taking son to work in 5mins, haha glad you found us and you sound like you will fit right in
Better go, catch up later x
sheena x
ps book a brilliant idea we could make a fortune! Heads together B6 xx
Click on the person name and then click on add as friends x
P.S Coconut water is really good for tiredness…
It tastes not too good, but you can add juice to it…
It re hydrates the body better than water…
Hi Dawn1,I have asked a lady called Caron to do a post for you on this thread she had mastectomy couple of weeks ago.
Love the idea of the book,friends and family guide to what not to say to person with cancer.“Are you scared”,“think positive”,“you are being very brave”,“you are a strong person” “my mamogram came back clear phew”, “I’ve got this really nasty cold I feel awful”,Things to say “what can I do to help”, “would you like me to come with you to any appointments”,“here’s some lovely homemade food I made for you”,“can I walk your dog for you”,“let’s get p*****d”,
Jill thank you so much, for the offer of help…Thankfully I dont have a dog to look after!!
I live in not so sunny Wales, I guess you are miles away…
I have taken on board all your advice and am going to do a Rota for friends
Entilled helping Al, in return when I wil the lottery I will share my winnings…
Of course it depends on how many times you pop in and whether your any help when your here…
The more you help, the more you get…
Afterall I have bought the book, how to win lottery…
Well Done about your mamagram results xxxx
Thank you Jill appreciate the help, hope you are ok xx
Hey Jill, we can deffiantely get P****d together
I am up for a party…I did go out with friends to give the old boob a send off…
And when better going to celebrate the new Bloob xx
I am feeling So pleased with myself…Rota for friends is cool, then I won’t have everyone come all at once and I know where I am…
I would never have thought about it if it wasn’t for you all…
Think we should put rota in book too…
I had better go and get myself organised lots to do…
Also got a book on Cosmic ordering!! lol
So once I read the book, if anyone wants something let me know and I will order it…
You can’t knock it untill you,ve tried it…
Apparently I am going to have alot of time on my hands…
Have a Good Day 6b xxxxxxx
Caron thank you so much for your advice…
It is So helpful
Chemo is a personal choice, you have to do research and think whats best for you…
I have already told the surgeon, we are not going down the chemo route…
For myself.
I am lucky that I am being sponsored by a charity so I can speak to someone from cancer options… (280 a sesion)
I am very slim and I don’t think my body would take it
Its nothing to do with losing hair, I am not vain…
I did read yesterday that skiinny people don’t do well having chemo…
I know lots of people chemo has worked for…
You have to do what is best for you…
Has anyone heard of soursop juice trying to see if I can find someone who has drunk this xxx
Hello 6B,
What an uplifting post June. Bravo to the two girls you talked about having mx and still going strong 20 years later. Give them girls a hug from us today ?
I love the idea of a book. I think we might be onto not only a helpful guide but a real money spinner. I can see it in the best sellers list. I am good at writing well my degree was in English and Drama. Think a book is a real option.
Dawn told you these girls on here are the best and we will support you. ?xxx
Good morning 6B, and let’s rock on, quiff or not 
Spent the morning faffing around… feeling v. tired but nowhere near as distressed as in the last few days. Heck, psychotherapy just works. I would have never, ever, thought that – I think I found by random chance the best shrink ever.
Off for a day at the swimming pool. I’ve been so busy having cancer, recently, and rummaging through my options, that I forgot that the ultimate goal to simply to live on, and that I am already living on, so I need to take advantage of it. I don’t need a “survivor” label in order to pursue other pursuits: my life is already mine, already there to take. I am the children of two people with severe personality disorders: I’ve grown up with the unspoken rule that I need permission from an authority in order to be happy, and I need permission in general, full stop. I shook this out when I ran away, but I am reenacting all the old drama, twenty-five years later, with the cancer and the authority of the doctors; that’s why my rational refusal of some of the treatment cost me psychologically an arm and a leg. The possibly worsened outcome wasn’t cause of the extreme pain I’ve experienced in the last few days: it was misplaced guilt. I can totally live with the statistically worsened outcome; for a sample of one is not bound too much by probability factors (1 is never representative…).
Sorry for the rambling but I am so astonished at how all clicked eventually, that I needed to tell someone, even if it’s a bit lateral from what we discuss usually.
Big hugs to everyone – Sheena, how are you doing? Did you reach a decision?
speak later x — (less) green tit