Oh noes, Sheena! But… But… How’s that possible? And have they given you the percentage of the likelihood of chemo helping you
I am out and about, will write more when at home tonight xx
Sheena see my message on the other thread. I too was like you had a shock at post surgery meeting when they said chemo as it was first time it was mentioned. My tumour was large too 58mm but clear nodes and margins. It only gave me 3-5% improvement. I decided not to have it living alone etc… As well as Tamoxifen they are now going to put me on monthly Zoldex injections for 2 years to make damm sure it doesn’t come back instead of chemo. Im 44 years old. The choice should be yours it was left for me to decide and I was not pressurised into chemo or no chemo. Get the stats and make an informed choice thats right for you. Xxxx Dee xxxx
Dee, will get all info and statistics before I decide, part of me says go for belt and braces etc other bit doesn’t want my life, for however long, to be rotten
Mael, catch up later
love xxx
Yes you will. I had the chemo shocker at my post surgery meeting and then they said they would discuss stats when i saw the oncs about a week later. They ahould give you all the stats and then let u decide but again it all depends on your particular case. I felt like i’d been through enough at the end of the day. My surgeon reassured me that it would be my choice and no one would force me to have it. She said some women will go for it for even a 1% improvement. Its such a personal choice. Sending hugs and you should not have to make the decision without the facts. Worth bearing in mind my onc said stats on Adjuvunct Online tend to be on pessermistic side. I got 2 sets of stats Adjuvunct Online and stats personal to me as the online tools dont take everything into account apparently. Hope that helps. Dee xxxx
Good morning ladies!
mael, I do think the surgeon was as honest and straight forward, and the size of the tumour came as a surprise when taken out, it was really deep inside my breast and a rarer form, invasive mucinous carcinoma, think he was saying that although you get positioned to be blasted it may be tricky and it’s on left side so heart damage to be taken into account, never mind though once this hangover lifts I will be on the research trail again!
just wanted to say that both of you are such a great help amd support for me, thanks sooooo much
sheena xx
Heres to us living alone girls having a good weekend. I prescribe booze all round! 15/21 rads done nearly there. Ive got a pink tit but other than that fine. Tiredness from rads eased off today so i did some sale shopping in London. Was actually quite poignant. Was at womenswear in Selfridges. I walked past the lingerie and almost cried with happiness as before surgery I thought I would never be able to wear nice bras or normal clothes. Sounds funny but I thought i’d be wearing Demis Rousos type baggy tops for the rest of my life! Sounds silly now very happy with boobs post surgery.Dee xxxx
Hi June,
Always good to hear from you:-) I finish Mon 29th June. Love the leopard print story. Im being a bit of a feminist at the mo and wesring no bra! Nurses told me its more comfy going through rads and i’m quite small anyway!!
Oh June your friends have no idea what u have been through!!! I shall have a glass of champers for you tomorrow night. My advice is to go out with said friends Mon night and gently put into the conversation that you have met some new friends who understand and our taking you out to London for your birthday and generally spoiling you! Enough said they will get the message how pathetic they have been about ur birthday without you having to tell them directly! So June get thinking of somewhere u would like to go in London!!! Hugs Dee xxx And know June you are amongst true friends here xxxx
If its any consulation June ive tried online dating and its crap. I’m 44 but could pass for mid to late 30’s. I did something really mad the other day i booked to attend a polo match. Its England v South America the Coronation Cup. Wills and Harry attend and theres an after party!!! You never know who u might meet!! Well June I would love to take u to the races its a top day out! Xxxx
Dee, June, Sheena, this is just a friendly hug – I am too sloshed to read AND make sense of the words 
I went out for a drink with a female colleague (rare beast in my line of trade) and things went slightly out of hand. Tomorrow, after a few ibuprofens, I shall be able to contribute to the discussion. For the moment being, let me just thank you for being there, from the depth of my well-pickled heart 
And, when I sober up, in a few days, I shall take upon myself to organise something similar among us.
Peace and love xxx
mael
Morning all. Go Blondie and Mael ibuprofen all round. Can’t tell you how good it feels to get to know lively women like me who live alone with BC. Hallelujah! We have found like minded people and we’re going to make the most of our lives. Big smiles to everyone xxxx
Yay! We are women behaving badly! Do you think channel 4 might make a documentary about us? Suggestions for a title, ,?My big misshapen boobie? Boobies with no benefits?
A polo match dee? How very posh
mael, hopefully head will clear soon!
blondie, you’ve joined this crazy gang!
June, hopefully lunch date doesn’t get shifted
its my birthday tomorrow so today I am meeting up with four friends who I can rely on whatever happens and there will be some others there who I couldn’t give a stuff for anymore, we all know the ones, don’t we? Will be interesting because they had bee saying OH Please let me know if you want anything, etc etc but haven’t been in touch since op! How helpful, ! Not
so it will be lovely lunch and fizz and although I can’t get a proper bra on yet I will be wearing high heels and a dress for the first time in ages! Mighty powerful stuff
Better go sort myself out
will give you all the gory details later
love to you all
sheena xxxxx
Happy Birthday June. And happy Birthday for u Sheena 4 tomorrow. Remember our mantra 4 your friends who swore to help out but you havent seen them 4 dust. In the words of the late great Clarke Gabel ’ Quite frankly my dear I couldn’t give a damm! ’ I shall be raising a glass to both of you. Love the titles Sheena 4 our TV doc made me giggle. Dee xxxx
Home, bleep, heels off ouch! Great day till my best friend’s partner came to pick us up
Wtf is wrong with men…???
Had a brilliant day till he f’d it up
love you all im my drunken bubble, but also always love you out of the bubble to xxx
Tell him to p**s off. No one rains on our parade darling as Barbara Steisand sang. Great minds think alike Sheena. I am sat here in a wine intoxicated flush, no not a hot one! Still crying with laughter at ur channel 4 titles for our documentary. It is so funny Sheena and you my dear are pure class! Dee xxxxx
Thanks my love x total tosser cos we kept him waiting for 10mins best friend is in my spare room staying overnight after telling him to do one! !
She is my rock x
Could be time for mobile number swapping, what a great laugh we could have xxx
Too right count me in. And remember our mantra. Top times ahead xxxxx
Top top top xx night night sweetie x
Happy birthday Sheena! (finally I managed to read all the messages I’ve missed). Great to wear heels again, I know :) I am a jeans, trainers and leather jacket type but I do have heels that I unearth once in a while when I want to feel sexy (not often lately, but it had been witnessed, in the past :D).
(what was wrong with the partner of your friend? Just curious, and a good rant about men is a satisfaction that I usually try to not miss!).
Welcome Blondie, this is a bit of a social thread really, and it’s great fun.
I’ve spent the weekend trying to emerge from the alcoholic fog. Oh man a British lady can and will drink a Continental one under the table 
She absolutely destroyed me, but it was good. Alas, Saturday was a write-off. Today I’ve mostly helped the cleaner, so really it wasn’t the most glamorous weekend everrrr
The only thing worth noting is that I’ve been watching on youtube the old programs about wine, those made by James May and Oz Clarks, and I’ve been taken by a sudden desire to learn about wine. Do you ladies cultivate an interest for wine? I am pig-ignorant but many years ago I went to a course, and it was quite fun.
love, xxx
mael
As per online dating: my personal experiences as well were meh. I am aware of some successes among people I know but I believe the model is flawed (I’ve read recently a book about that and it was saying in a nutshell that too much choice and anonymity put people in a despondent attitude).
As a side note, I remember one night I was sitting in a pub with a bunch of people I know, and someone asked who was / had been on okcupid. The surprising answer was that everyone had been, and everyone thought it was full of psychos. Till one lady wisely observed: “wait, so we are all psychos… ?”
I am browsing wine schools on the web and, oh! Many have singles nights. GIRLS! GIRLS!!
I could take advantage of this but maybe a bit later xD. Like in the Tig Notaro sketch, I would have to come up to a guy and introduce myself “hiya, I am Mael, and… hmm, I’ve got cancer. Ya know, haven’t much else going on at the mo” (to this observation, the cleaner today retorted with wide eyes “oh no M’am, you tell them later” :D).
night girlz xx
mael