The sentence above is one I’d never thought I’d have to write but I can imagine that’s the same for all of us on this forum.
I found a lump a few weeks ago and was reassured over and over again it was just due to being pregnant, however they referred me to be safe. Yesterday, I received the most unexpected and terrifying news, they think it’s breast cancer and I now have to wait 7-10 days for my biopsy results.
I’m so scared and don’t know how to fill my time. My mind keeps going to the worst case scenario and I don’t know what to do. I’m worried for myself, my husband and my unborn baby.
I just wanted to post to see if anyone has gone through something similar or tips on passing the time. I’m beside myself with fear.
We are so so sorry to hear this. It must be such a worrying time for you, and must be so difficult to content with.
Firstly, it’s totally normal to feel consumed by this, and to keep considering the worst case scenario. I would really recommend reaching out to our nurses if you are feeling overwhelmed, or if you have any questions. Sometimes it can just be helpful to talk things through. You can reach them on our free helpline 0808 800 6000, and you can call them as many times as you want or need.
@aerthom my heart goes out to you, I’m so sorry to read such sad post, take one day at a time at the moment, let wait for the biopsy to come back there will be a better picture of what is ahead.
Please come back at let us know how your getting on, sorry I can’t be more helpful.
Wishing you love, strength, health and happiness ahead.
Sadly they have confirmed it’s breast cancer but they didn’t have all the results back on the type yet so not sure on my exact plan. The pregnancy complicates things a bit but hopefully can start some kind of treatment asap. How did everything go for you? I hope okay.
Thank you, I would definitely like that as they 100% confirmed it is breast cancer today but need to wait a few more days for exact type and treatment plan. The pregnancy definitely complicates a few things! How did everything go for you? So pleased to hear you’re cancer free now!
Oh @aerthom, I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m sure you must be in shock - especially while you wait for the rest of the details from your results. I hope you were able to speak to the nurses, but please know you can call them as many times as you need to on 0808 800 6000.
A few other resources I have found for you, where you can find support and speak to other people in a similar position through:
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I’m sorry you are going through this. I was diagnosed November last year at 10 weeks pregnant so I understand how you are feeling and I’m here if you want to talk to someone.
On a positive note I gave birth to a healthy baby girl in May and she’s a chunky 5 month old now.
I’m not finished with treatment yet but I had 4 rounds of chemo during pregnancy, 4 rounds post pregnancy and 2 weeks ago I had a lumpectomy. It’s not an easy road but there are resources out there as some others have posted about and I really found they helped especially in the beginning.
Sam x
@aerthom - I’m so so sorry you’ve received such a frightening diagnosis when preparing for a new baby … it’s so good to see you’ve had some wonderful advice here…
I definitely recommend BCN,s Someone like Service
They’ll match you with a trained volunteer who has experienced a breast cancer diagnosis like yours .
I used the service myself when I was diagnosed in July 2024 and really helped me when I was worried about my treatment etc x
I’m so sorry you’ve found yourself in this position. I was diagnosed at 12 weeks pregnant 18 months ago. My baby is 1 now and it was a hard journey but things are better for me now. I had surgery and 4 rounds of chemo during pregnancy. Then 12 more rounds after birth and radiotherapy. I’m here if you need to talk. X
Hi Rosa1, that would be great to chat if you’re open to it. It’s still very raw and I go from devastation, to heartbreak to fear constantly. I’m just so concerned I won’t be able to look after the baby due to being unwell. How did you find everything?
I’m sorry
My type was estrogen positive breast cancer.
As i was further along in my pregnancy, we induced woth 2 weeks left.
I had the same worries, and it’s important to note that everyones experience is different. Physically, I was very fortunate and was able to care for my children.
I remember coming home from My first lumpectomy and cooking sausage and mash for my family(including my aprents who was over looking after the little ones whilst i was in hospital, my husband came with me).
So try not to dwell too much (impossible) until you know what you are dealing with
Yes I’m happy to talk more. I managed quite well. I did have to ask my mum to stay with me when I had my mastectomy to help me to look after my youngest. It’s so hard and I remember when I found out I couldn’t sleep for weeks and was so emotional. Now I try not to dwell on too much on what’s happened. X
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