I realise after posting one thing I have thought about but not yet tackled is how do I tell family and friends that are overseas - I have worked out who I will call and in what order, but would love some practical advice on telling family and friends who are a long way away - IE other side of the world.
I am planning to call when I know when my surgery will happen and what all the scans and biopsies say but if any one can give practical advice I would appreciate it - as I have spoken to fiends and work colleauges here which has helped so much this week.
Hi booksandwine
Whilst you wait for the other user to reply with their experience and advice you might find it helpful to talk things through with a member of staff on the BCC helpline. Here you can share your concerns with someone who will offer you a listening ear as well as emotional support and practical information.
The number to call is 0808 800 6000 and the lines are open Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm and Saturday 10am to 2pm.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
If it were me, I would send an email first warning that I was going to call and I had some bad news. That way the phone call won’t be such a shock for them. If they are older relatives and don’t go online or have email, you will just have to bite the bullet and tell them straight out. Try and explain that you have a treatment plan and then outline what it is. I only have a few relatives in Australia, and I don’t call them but keep in touch by email and facebook. I simply told them I had BC and what was going to happen. They were concerned of course, but took the news well.
Good luck
poemsgalore xx
I have only just been diagnosed but also have a lot of family and friends overseas. You may by now have tackled all this but I could identify with your worry’s because I have found telling people almost the hardest part. I don’t like to upset people and this clearly does so its very difficult. I also remember from when we lived overseas what its like when a close family member was diagnosed. You feel so very far away and completely helpless to even offer simple support like a hug. Some of my in laws didn’t know whether to call because they felt it might be imposing, but I have found it easier if they do call and you can tell them timelines of treatment etc so they feel involved. I have also emailed family and friends in the last few days since the initial conversation to keep the communication open and so they know I’m still me. Take care and hoping everything goes well for you. X