I would just like to thank my friends for the ‘farewell’ night they had for me on Friday night 23/10/09. My mastectomy is due on Thursday 9/10/09. We called the night ‘farewell to Jean’s RB’. It may sound a bit shocking but the 5 of us had a few bottles of wine at a friend’s house and talked about the past, memories, what we are going to do in the future, breast cancer, where we are all going to go for our ‘50ths’, etc. Although some of the night was tinged with sadness at lost loved ones, it was a great success. I was def not feeling like socializing but they really cheered me up and made me forget about what I am going through for a few hours. It also made me realise how much I was loved and how much support I have - I didn’t realise how much this has affected them as well. I couldn’t stop talking about this ‘fabulous forum’ I stumbled upon and how much it has helped me during the past few weeks!
I would also like to take this opportunity before my surgery to thank all the members of this forum for their posts/threads/advice which I had read - it has been invaluable (especially in the wee small hours when everyone else is sleeping - I no longer feel so alone when I can’t sleep). Keep up the good work
So thanks to my friends and my cyber friends - you all make the fight worthwhile!!! Love, hugs and courage!
your ‘farewell’ party sounds great. The love and support of people closest to you means so much. I certainly found out who my true friends were when I was dx last October. I was pleasantly surprised by some people and really upset by others reactions. To have a so-called ‘good friend’ turn the other way when she saw me coming was very upsetting at the time. Another guy I used to work with for years did the same thing, yet stopped and chatted to me for ages yesterday. Did the fact that I was no longer bald and had finished treatment have a bearing on his reaction? I know cancer scares people - hello! I’m the one who had it! - but I guess some people just can’t cope. My friends and family (most) have been great and the advice and support from this site has been, and continues to be immense and invaluable.
I hope your op goes well on Thursday, and look forward to hearing about your progress if you decide to post.
Hi fortysomething, glad you have good friends around you to get you through all the cxxp. Just thought I would let you know I will be thinking about you on Thursday. Am sure you will do well after your surgery and will be looked after by everyone in Wishaw from the moment you arrive till you get home again.