Hi All,
I would just like to say thank you to BCC for sharing Holley Kitchen’s video on Facebook - it has had a huge impact:
The comments are so positive - well done.
Tink x
That’s wonderful, so glad I watched it, thanks Tinks, would have missed this.
Thank you Tink,very moving xxx
Thanks, Tink, but can’t watch it as I don’t belong to Facebook (and am not going to either!). Is there another way of watching it, do you know? I would love to be able to watch it. Thanks. Barton
Dearest Ladies
I just wanted to say that I have posted on the thread that has caused upset. Please please dont close yourselves as SBC peeps away from us primaries. I know that I am in a different place to you all for now but am completely aware that this may not always be the way. I gain great comfort from reading about your lives and treatments as if in some way I am paving the way ‘just in case’ I do hope that is not distasteful to you but I do not feel that this is all sorted for me. The reason being that I diagnosed with a relatively treatable case of Grade 3 Stage 1 invasive tumour with no node involvement but I have not undergone chemo due to other physical conditions that have led my oncologist and my husband and I to feel that it is worth the risk to see if what has been done so far is enough. My oncologist is extremely concerned that chemo would most likely hospitalise me for most of the 6 months of treatment required and that currently the risks potentially outweigh the benefits. I have put this view on one FB group and got shot down as having let myself and family down for not taking all that has been offered to me. This upset me as you will understand there are a myriad reasons for making the decisions we do and not all can be explained in the cold light of day. I would never suggest that I understand what you all experience as it seems there are as many permutations of treatments as there are people but what I gain from your world is that there is such hope, fun and friendship to be had even in dark times. Please keep your group open and educate as the video on FB has certainly done for so many. Lots of love and hugs Katie xxx
Thank you, Katie, for your kind post and your reply on the other thread. I have been really upset by the attitude of some of the primary posters, so much so that I can’t reply. For goodness sake!! We don’t want pity but when a lovely young mother has the courage to explain secondary breast cancer she gets slated for “frightening” primary posters!! It beggars belief when we are all sharing similar experiences.
I would like more posters to know that I would be in the 20 year survivor category despite a secondary diagnosis 2 years ago. Primary breast cancer ladies are in remission!! I sincerely hope that they stay that way, of course.
Hi Kili and others, thank you for your responses to me but also generally as i feel blessed to be part of a group with such humanistic views…
x
Thank you, Mrs Goggins and Kilimanjaro for your lovely posts. There are some very wise ladies on this forum…
Just clicked on this thread out of curiosity and eventual found the links to the video…thank you ladies.
Watched it and was educed to tears…that woman has sid it all without saying a word…far from being slated it shoud be shown on national television!!!
Tinker belle I have to agree with Belinds. You did not cause any upset, yours was a considered and well made response. I have read all of your posts and have found invaluable support, comfort and advice in them. As I am sure many others have. Your input is too valuable to lose
Xx
Tink please don’t leave the forum, you helped me out with that article about statins so for purely selfish reasons I want you to stay!!
I want to add my voice too. your comments were well balanced, thoughful and true!! You made a lot of sense. please do not get upset by such selfish negative comments - although I have not read them i can imagine what they say . SS
Dear Tink please dont go you have opened alot of peoples eyes to what was a very potent video I first saw it on Facebook and I felt touched by it. All you did was share it with others that wasn’t wrong bless you don’t take it to heart stay with us we need you xxx
Tink, I truly hope you reconsider your decision to leave the forum. Your response, was in no way offensive or upsetting, you just explained how their posts had made others feel. I am not a big poster on the forum but read everyday and was so upset by the comments I felt I had to reply too.
They seem to now be painting it as though the big bad secondary girls have come in and upset their sheltered little world? I don’t believe any of us wrote anything offensive, we just said how we felt.
I guess our world is just too frightening for them to even contemplate.
Hugs, Kate x
Thanks so much Belinda, I really appreciate being made to feel welcome 
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