My friends son, who is s grown up as he is ever going to be, told his Mum he’d heard I had to have a double hysterectomy. Eek!!
My daughter yelps in dramatic fashion at the slightest tug when having her hair brushed. One morning she watched me standing holding my wig and brushing it. She commented “I wish I could take my hair off to brush it…” Don’t think she would like it in reality, but made me laugh!
i’m back at work in school (after a year off due to 2nd diagnosis)working with 7,8 & 9 year olds.
my hair has grown back & i’ve had it lightened so…
miss, have you dyed your hair?
yes!
did you mean to?
yes!!
& i’d thought i looked ok…
he he!
love jk x
these posts have made me smile so much, whatever would we do without kids wisdom lol, havaing just recently been diagnosed, when I told one of my daughters we were in the kitchen and my grandaughter who is four was doing some colouring in the next room, she must of overheard me mentioning about losing my hair, and saying that I didnt want the grandchldren to be scared if I had no hair. Well afterwards we went and sat down having a cuppa and my grandaughter climbed on my knee and said *I really love you nana* and I told her I loved her too, then she said *Ile even love you if yoour *head* falls off!! lol bless her she thought ide said head and not hair, well that made me lol, and it did difuse a sad moment for us. It was very sweet too x I love hearing what other peoples children have said xx love to all xx
Hi,
I have 1 older and 2 younger.
The other day Katie (7) told me that I shouldn’t worry about losing my hair because she would cut paper into strips, colour it brown and sellotape it to my head for me! And if I didn’t like that she’d make me some paper hats! 
awh thats so sweet teatimethink :)xx
my daughter( who is older ) said something similar to me we had been to see the pink concert and she had her hair all twisted up and a flower in the side afterwards i said " do you fancy going for a drink " ,and she said " or no all my hairs falling out" ha ha no mines all falling out yours is just coming down .then for a wedding she offered to do all my hair with her straighteners Yikes i would have frizzled seeing i was wearing Marjorie ( my wig ) My little nephew also asked " Auntie Julie wheres youre wig ( i didnt have the heart to tell him it was on my head) I said why and he said cos i just wanted to try it on and see what i looked like as a girl ha ha His mam was passed herself and promptly gave him all the boyish macho toys to play with ha ha .
Daisy - your stories made me laugh but almost echo the attitude of the students in the secondary school I work in as the Student Manager. I have been upfront about my illness and answered all questions that have come my way.
It has been a daily ritual for some of the girls to come and find me to see what hat I was wearing that day and let me know if I’d succeeded in ‘co-ordinating’ my colours etc. Your story about the student and the coursework reminded me of a Yr8 student who asked me the same question, “are you going to die?”. My answer was, “well not this week” to which his reply was, “oh, so I’ve still got to do the detention on Wednesday then?”
To be honest, I think it’s the students attitude towards all of this that helps me to keep going during some of my ‘down’ days.
Karen
Hi Karen,
I too was very upfront to my students and answered any questions as honestly as I could.
I have been surprised by the kindness shown to me by my students especially as I work with kids who have behaviour issues and many are on the way out of the school system.
3 of my students did a sponsored silence and raised £250 for breast cancer care.
I remember one student coming to me and telling me her Dad was diagnosed with cancer but she had every confidence that he would be ok as she had seen me go through chemo and come out the other side, last week she came back and told me her Dad had been given the all clear.
daisy.
i am waitin for my reconstruction and my lovely 16 year old son said,mum dont you think your to old to bother with that,i wouldnt mind but im a young 45 year old bless
Most memorable comment so far is from my 15 year old daughter, on ‘the day we told them mum had bc’. We’d called her and her 16yo brother into the sitting room, saying we had to talk to them, and Daisy looked horrified and said ‘Oh god mum, don’t tell me you’re PREGNANT’.
Still makes me giggle now. (She also has 2 younger sisters, aged 7 and 6, so I can see why she might have thought that that was what the news would be).
My youngest kept asking if it was ok to laugh at me when all my hair fell out. I said yes, fine, but anyone who laughs too loudly might just be visited by me in the middle of the night with scissors… cue shrieks and giggles… All four kids were actually quite subdued when OH took razor to my head. They had coped with stubbly mum, but bald mum was more scary for all of us. They all comment on my scarves/hats though…
Finally, on Friday when picking younger two up from school, my 7 year old daughter came running out, tipped her head to one side, and then firmly planted her hand on my (ex)left breast and said loudly ‘gosh, it really is flat when you’re not wearing your false booby, isn’t it?’. Fortunately, her class was late out and there were only one or two other mums still waiting… and they both knew what was going on!!!
Sophie xx
Not a kid I know but I’ve just thought of something amusing my mum said after she had her mastectomy 16 years ago. She had decided not to have a reconstruction as she thought she was too old to got through all that so she had a falsie. “Oh its great” she said “I can just throw it on the bed and say to your father, ‘Here play with that, I’m going out!’”
Again not kids, but I remember my Granny after her mastectomy saying, as she shuffled her falsie back into place, that it made her feel like she was in a Les Dawson sketch. And telling us how my Aunt used her falsie to clean the bath one day, not realising what it was - Granny dined out on that one for ages, she thought it was so funny.
Buzzy, that’s a hoot, a real laugh out loud moment. And as for Cheesie’s granny and aunt - what a family!
I’m sure people who haven’t had direct involvement with breast cancer would be horrified at us laughing like this, which makes me laugh even more. Oh, black humour, what would I do without you…
just had to tell you about my (baby). she is 8 and after a my mx i had a really low day where i seemed to cry and cry. when i put her to bed she said “mummy are you sad because your booby is in a jar in the hospital next to the doctors desk?” It really made me laugh and lifted my sad mood for the rest of the evening. Im now left with this image of the consultant sat amongst jars and jars of different sized “boobies”!!!
My disney-mad neighbour’s little girl thought I had beast cancer. Presumably, I am the Beauty!
Brilliant, all of 'em. Don’t you just love kids (and aunties and grannies).
My littlest (12) asked me today if she can do the race for life. I said fine, as long as if I have to join in, I only have to walk, on the grounds that I don’t DO running. That’s why I have my car keys.
It appears that she and some of her schoolmates have been plotting and there’s a whole crowd of them aiming to do it, and they like the idea because you can write on a slip of paper you pin to your t-shirt who you’re doing it for! The power of a bunch of 12- and 13-yr-old girls, they are completely magic and I love them to bits.
How wonderful that your daughter and friends want to do this. I’m pretty sure all these events have walkers’ sections and I gather they’re pretty friendly events. My daughter did one with a friend who was supporting an auntie, along with her totally unsporty mother.
Cheryl
Yup - you can walk the Race for Life - me and my eldest daughter did so about three years ago, and promised ourselves that we’d get fit enough to run it the following year. Well, that didn’t actually happen (!) but just wanted to affirm that you CAN walk, and there will be plenty of other women doing just that - and the whole event is such a powerful buzz - women of all shapes and sizes and ages and nationalities, all in it together - it’s fab. I’ll be doing it this year with eldest daughter again (haven’t told her yet), and as I don’t finish chemo til April, I can assure you that I won’t be running… though we may sprint for the finish line like we did last time - just for a giggle. At least I’ll only have one boob jiggling this time…lol.
Sophie xx
Hello ladies. I’ve only just discovered this thread. I was diagnosed in 2003 and had to have a bilateral mastectomy. My two daughters were then aged 11 and 9. Being large-busted, my 9-year old, who loved her cuddles with her mum, cried because she said the cuddles just wouldn’t feel the same anymore. To which my 11-year old replied, “Don’t worry, I’ll be growing some boobs of my own soon and you can cuddle them instead!” Ah, bless!