just trying to get over 2nd op (auxillary cllearance) had lumpectomy n sentinal node 4 weeks ago. having to get everyone to help me do things, normally so organised boyfriend good daughters not really. was just starting to be able to do something n have had another op a week ago. today its swollen around the cut but feel everyones had enough of hearing about it n having to do stuff for me. have been so possitive but now think kids cant wait to be out boyfriend needs a break n feel helpless n know there everything else to come chemo rads n everything, n more results thursday which im frightened what there going to say as sentinal node had 6mm in. sorry just wanted to off load.xxxxx
hugs rozita
im sure they arent fed up with you but its hard not to feel like a burden when there is so much that you cannot do… however if it was you BF or kids who were having surgery and investigations you wouldnt think that of them, you would just be happy to care for them and help them but you would also enjoy a bit of time to yourself.
if your feeling a bit down about everything why not speak to your gp or a counsellor… these can often be arranged through your oncology unit or breast care nurse.
and you know you can always come and off load on here.
some people need medication to help them cope with their diagnosis and treatment too so thats also an option your GP may feel would benefit you if things are getting on top of you.
take care
Lulu x
thnks lulu, im ok today just had one of them c… days!! god no i dont want drugs rather hav wine or gin haha. been to hospital n have been syringed so feeling much better sorry 4 tht rubbish .xxxxx
rozita, wine sound like a good one 
its ups and downs and so difficult when you have most prob in the past been the one ‘doing’ But remember you must rest, it hard to have people doing things when you are not used to it. I used to make my mob bu**er off it gave me a chance to have some space and they had a break without feeling guilty.
This place is great to sound off on the poo days, and great for smiles on the good days
Rhian x
thnks rhian, love my wine but keep getting told its not good when uv got cancer n can increase it, not ready to give up everything, at moment good 4 pain but will try n cut down later probably wont feel like it during chemo anyway. having a chill out day tday take care. xxx