Hi there - just want to get this down. 2016 I was diagnosed with right breast ER+ ductal cancer, had lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radio. 2021 diagnosed new primary in left breast lobular ER+, mastectomy, diep recon, chemo and radio. Now 2026 I have been diagnosed with recurrence lobular left side and it’s now TNBC. I’m absolutely devastated. I’m waiting for chemo to start again Docetaxel and carboplatin. I’m just shell-shocked and this time I’m just pushing all my loved ones and friends away - I just want to be on my own. I feel like punching people hearing all “oh we’re so sorry”. I know I’m being unreasonable but I can’t seem to help it.
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@teddy23 theres not much I can say that will help but we are here for you, if you need to talk.x
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Teddy, I don’t find your response unreasonable at all. I can feel your anger which must be visceral. You have been dealt a croc and it just seems to keep coming. The only ‘advice’ I can give is don’t push people away because you will need your friends and family to help you get through this awful time - and you ARE going to get through it.
When people say they are ‘so sorry’ they really do mean it, however much of a platitude it may sound. I have spent the past five years in cancer treatment, but when a dear friend was diagnosed with TNBC at the beginning of the year, I found myself searching for the right words. It is almost more difficult than dealing with ones own diagnosis.
Nothing on your scale but I was diagnosed during Covid and met with an NHS who basically told me to go away and die and I ended up having to pay for all my treatment. I am extremely angry that the money I had to spend on my retirement has gone but…. What I found helped was to keep a blog which allowed me to get all my anger out and, believe it or not, some of it even turned in to humour.
Your current hand is terrible and there is no rhyme or reason for it but you will survive. Try writing it down, it does help. My thoughts are with you.
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