Those we miss at Christmastime.

Thought it would be nice to start this thread.

I miss my wonderful caring sensitive and loving mum.
When i do my christmas table no one comments like you did mum.
No one appreciates the dinner like you did mum.
No one buys me little special gifts and gives me money like you did mum.
No one laughs at our silly family jokes and games like you did mum.

Christmas is not the same without you my wonderful mum, all i have is your grave to put flowers on and my precious memories.

Happy Christmas MUM

Ruthxxxxx

Ruth,

Oh dear you’ve set me off, trying not to cry at my desk. I lost my mum in January so this Christmas will be very hard.

i still hear the songs
istill see the lights
i still feel the love
on cold wintery nights

i still share yoyr hopes
and all of your cares
ill even remind you
to please say your prayers

i just want to tell you
you still make me proud
you stand head and shoulders
over the crowd

keep trying each moment
to stay in his grace
i came here before you
to set you a place

you dont have to be perfect
all of the tome
he forgives you the slip
if you continue to climb

to my family and friends
please be thankful today
im still close beside you
in a new special way
i love you all dearly
now dont shed a tear
cause im spending my christmas
with jesus this year

john m mooney jr 1990.

thought this poem said it all
god bless to my dear friend george.

lynn x

Lynn…that is beautiful

God bless to my friend Karen.

karen x

I could hear my Dad’s voice right behind me saying those beautiful words, even with a tear in my eye but a smile on my face I can feel him with me. God bless Dad, I love you and miss you.

Kelly

in the last 8 years i have lost my gran xmas 99 auntie xmas 2000
my beautiful mam and dad nov and dec 01 and this week my cousin has died suddenly
christmas is a bittersweet time for my family but lots of happy memories

I am an only child and lost my Dad in 1990 and my Mam in 2005.
I miss them both so much but I believe in angels and feel that they have both been with me during my dx and surgery.
Happy 86th birthday today Mam and happy birthday Dad on the 22nd.
All my love always
Sally
x x x x x x x x

I lost my dear dad in 2003, and it really hurts at Christmas, because his birthday was Christmas Eve, and I really miss buying two presents for him. Now we just leave a holly wreath on his grave. I also miss my nan, who died in 1996. She was a wonderful nan, and she worshipped my 15 year old son. The sad thing is, he doesn’t really remember her, as he was only 4 when she died. He does still have memories of my dad, though, as he was just coming up 11 when he passed away. I miss them all the time, but especially at Christmas. As my dad was Welsh, I’d just like to say to him, and I know he’ll understand - Dad, nos da, bendith duw.

My Dad died on 28th Dec 2004 the day before my birthday. Each year since I have decided to try and be cheerful but at some point I have to admit defeat. The awful thing is that when I got my diagnosis I was almost pleased that Dad had gone as I dont think he would have coped with all this worry. Now I just feel guilty that i thought that as I am sure he would have been as loving and supporting as he always was
Hilary

For my grandma whom I miss soooooooo much.it was her birthday on boxing day.She died when I was 18 ,which although was 21 years ago still hurts.she taught me lots of things when i was growing up,how to bake,peel potatoes,use a twin tub washer(hee hee)and now I wish she was here because she would be helping me get through this b***h of a time.she was the best. x

debbi x x

o dear, you have bought a tear to my eye.

I’d like to mention the wonderful character that was my dad. He died just over 5 years ago when I was 22yrs old, five weeks after he was diagnosed with cancer (sadly he had extensive secondaries by the time he was diagnosed).

I miss him very much.

Have a lovely christmas everyone.

Teacup xxxxx

Aroma that poem is so so beautiful.
I am doing memory boxes for my daughters and will put that poem in each one.
Thanks.
Rx

hi its funny how a poem or verse can bring back memories ,when i read it first i couldnt stop weeping and then i felt so calm as if my wonderful friend george was right there with me reading it over my shoulder .i just wanted to share it with my friends on here who will be missing their loved ones at this time of year especially. love and hope to all lynn xx

I will miss my mum so much,I miss her everyday,…my mum died february 2004…love you,miss you Mum, …D.

For my dad who died march 2006, i miss him so very much, he made me feel safe, i wish he was here with me now . I love you dad .Linda x

Just lost my precious mum 3 weeks ago and trying hard to key this in through the tears.

Do not stand at my grave andd weep
I am not there; I do not sleep

I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain

When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night,

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

I miss you mum, every day xx

kriss, you mum will be with you whenever you need her, it is hard to cope with the loss especially at this emotive time of year, will be sending you a hug .yake care love lynn xx

Hello

I dont really know why i felt the need to share this but im 33 years old and last week i went to the funeral of a very dear friend whom ive known since i was 17. She had battled with breast cancer for what would have been 3 years in january. She never once moaned and was truly the bravest woman ive known. I cant get my head round why a 36 year old with everything to live for should be so cruelly taken away from this life and should have had to suffer so much too. Im so angry as well as upset at the moment. Not only was she my friend but my colleague at the school we worked at too. The children had a rememberance assembley for her and i just couldnt attend i was so upset.I hope i will eventually stop being angry and will just enjoy the memories of all the good times we had, but i just think its so unfair. She had so much to live for. Her name was Kerry and i miss her so much.

Thank you for listening to my rant

x x

thank you lynn xxx

Alisa
I KNOW exactely how you feel. Fourteen years ago my best friend died with BC she was Dx at 33 and 36 when she died.
I have a very strong faith but i tell you i almost walked out on it. I actually disliked God and the anger i felt was unbelievable. she left a hubby who was just ‘lost’ without her and the most gorgeous two daughters of 7 and 10.
Do you know her family if she has one? I threw myself into helping them and making sure the girls had someone to talk too and cuddle also spent hours talkin to her hubby. This helped a little but i did have some counselling and they helped me with the anger and how to deal with it.

Life is cruel though and i hate this disease i have lost so many friends and family to it. fortunately i have alot of friends who are well after their DX and treatment.

Keep posting on here it does help i have found.

Hug Rx