Time to get on with my life and leave BCC Behind

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Hi Ladies,

I first came on this site 3 yrs ago after being DX with BC in 2007, and in all that time it has been a fantastic source of information, tips, advise and support, in what was what we all know to be a very frightening time , over the yrs on BCC i have met so many wonderfull women and made many new friends ,some who no longer come on BCC but we keep in touch ,and some sadly who are no longer here , but are always in my thoughts and will never be forgotten.

When i first found the forums ,it was a very different Place to what it is now, (i expect there are still a few ladies here who will remember the old days lol), there was a different website for a start, there were many fantastic debates ,there were many different strong personalities , and everyone was respectfull, even when people put there very different viewpoints forward.

In those days it was allowed and expected to express all the different views, after all we all have our own expierences and thoughts on all the various issues regarding BC, and although certain topics such as the ones that are being debated today would very often get very heated, (so much more so than the BCC forums of today )there was not one of us back then that would have ever made another forum member feel shunned and not wanted as i have been made to feel today.
I guess the new Jane Plant, Supportive, Friendly, topic says it all, so thanks noberta,
I dont want to stay on a forum that shows such hostility to another member just because they dont share the same view, i believe everyone has the right to debate issues whether we agree with them or not . sadly i dont think this site allows for that anymore,it seems if you dont agree, then your ganged up upon , not wanted and pushed out, well sadly that to me is no longer a supportive forum or certainly not the BCC forums that once was .

I hope if anything good has came out of the Jane Plant thread it is that people will be able to come to there own conclusions, i do not like the term “Anti Cancer Diet” because it implys that the rest of us who continue to eat Dairy/meat/sugar ect are eating a cancer contribueting diet, and that frightens people ,you only have to look at the new recipee thread, (which bye the way was a an exelent idea Elinda, its always good to share food recipees)to see that a few posters there are already questioning " is there something wrong with eating Dairy and cancer" theres no current proof but the seeds of doubt have been planted and i think thats very wrong,

Anyway, It realy is time i moved on , 3yrs and im still logging on to a cancer forum, is not good. Ive got a life to get on with and its about time i realy started to begin living it,

All the best to all of you.
Linda

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Linda

I am so sorry you are choosing to leave but I do understand why.

You have contributed so much to this forum and have so often voiced my own thoughts. I think I agreed with most of what you said. It will be a pity not to have you here to put the other side of the debate.

I do so wish you good luck with your future life and hope, sincerely, that you never have the need to return.

Love Ann xxx

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Sorry that you’re choosing to leave. All the very best for the future.

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Sorry to hear that you are leaving. I support some what you say but have switched off a bit as things seem to go around in circles.
I have not got the energy for it. I do know what it is like to get emotionally involved with a thread.

Maybe a bit of time out might help.

Julie

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Dear Linda I am so sorry you feel you have to go.I havent read the Jane Plant thread because I do not believe that there is any diet which will protect against cancer.All we can do is safeguard our general health as we feel appropriate.I suppose some people just feel that there must be ‘something’ they can do to feel more in control and when the voice of reason joins the debate they feel scared and react.It would be sad if you went-it is people like you who are some way down the road that can offer most help to others.BCC itself does not [as far as I know]promote any fashinable fads.Sometimes we need JaneRA with her informative,forthright comments.I wish you well love-dont go.
Valx

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Linda,
I agree, the forums are not the same anymore and I understand why you feel the need to stop visiting them, take care and all the best,
Jenna x

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Hi Linda

I am very sorry to see you go and the thought that you have felt intimidated on this forum makes me very sad.

I have not read much of the Jane Plant thread as I think it is a heap of nonsense that people cling too hoping they can change the future. I’m all for a healthy diet etc but obsession with unproven data written by sudo scientists I do not believe to be healthy.

I wish you well and hope you change your mind.

Lots of love and all the best for the future. Anne x x

Ps I miss JaneRA very much too.

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I admit that was horrified to see the title of the new thread on diet … ill-advised rather than having ill-intent I think, but it felt horribly divisive nevertheless. I’m particularly sorry to see that there has been this fall-out as a result of it.

I never knew JaneRA, but have read some of the older threads and can see why many miss her.

Linda, I hope you find a way to return if that is what you wish. If part of moving on is not participating, then I wish you success with that and much happiness.

Debs x

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Hi Linda,
I will miss your posts, as you know l have enjoyed your debates!
I too was shocked to see the new title of the thread on diets, but as Debs says ill advised rather than ill intent!

Hope whatever you decide to do with regards to the forum, you stay healthy and happy, and stay in touch!
Love and Hugs
Sandra xxx

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hi linda

just want to wish you well, and if you ever do want to check back into the forum, please come and say hello to us on the embarking on an adventure thread. It is always so helpful to have advice and support from people who have already been where we are. If you genuinely think its time to move on, all the very best to you and thankyou. If, on reflection, you would like to combine the two then come say hello.

Vickie

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Hi Linda

I too haven’t read the Jane Plant thread as I think it’s very dangerous to encourage people to believe that by following a particular diet they can be cured. Healthy and balanced diet by all means, but cancer has taken so much that I refuse to feel guilty because I have a piece of cheese occasionally or a glass of wine.

The forum is not the same and I rarely post now except on the Newly Diagnosed thread (only occasionally). I miss JaneRA, Debsincornwall and many others.

If you are leaving the forum because you think it’s time you moved on - good luck to you (I often think I should be doing the same but can’t quite cut the ties) but if it’s because you feel intimidated, then please think again.

Take care
Mal x

PS I had a check-up yesterday and met with the research nurse. It seems that the interim report on the Tact2 Trial is due in about 6 months.

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Hi, Linda I was also diagnosed in 2007 and agree it has changed.I too was annoyed at the title of the new thread.I am weaning myself off of here lol,but keep comming on to read posts(must find something else to do inbetween going to work lol).I did stop comming on for a while but then we had a terrible loss in our family and I found myself comming back on,dont know why.

I wish you well for the future

Mel (really gone now) xx :slight_smile:

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HI linda

I agree with you on some of the topics re diets. I have posted on that topic with the reasons as you have said. I get worried that it is making some ladies think they may have caused their cancer, very worrying.

Good luck for the future

Marian

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Hi Lindiloo, I have come in from stick for my views on 'anti cancer diet, jane plant and the scourge of 'positive thinking’et al. I go on here rarely now and miss some of the old names on bcc. I find the attitude prevelent in the real world too. This makes me feel very isolated. Unfortunately, getting on with my life is not going so well so stuck. I wish you all the best.

Rachyxxx

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Hi Lindiloo, I will miss reading your posts and wish you weren’t going but it is your decision and I respect that.
I too miss JaneRA and Debsincornwall and other ladies I never met but felt I knew. I have never read the thread you mentioned but am inclined to avoid any diet related ones. I am a great believer in eating good home-made food. I know many women who have changed to what they consider anti-cancer diets but many of them have passed away. It didn’t seem to make any difference to the outcome.
When you are first diagnosed with Cancer it is a very scary and you can fell overwhelmed when all the new things you never knew anything about get landed onto your lap. Often you are even planning your own funeral. Yet it need not be like this and that is why people who have had BC for a long time can offer a glimmer of hope that there are survivors who are LIVING with cancer.
I detest it it when ladies whose posts are encouraging and informative feel the need to leave the forums. Theresa has also been made to feel like you do and her posts made my day as she was always the first to post every morning. I wish that she would reconsider too. Yes we need debate but I would love to know what is so bad with disagreeing about anything on here. After all that is what real life is like. Will miss you, Love Val