Hi everyone,
I posted some things last week regarding husband and the time i was having…after much very welcome advice I have “parked” that for the moment to try and get treatment sorted.
I have my 2nd oncology appointment tomorrow to try and decide what to do, I am still so confused, going to call the care line in a moment but just wondered if anyone here had similar experience or advice?
I had WLE & SLB on 16th October. Tumour was grade 3 but no nodes involved. Hormone sensitive so at oncology last week they started by saying we believe you could leave here today taking no further treatment and have an 85% chance of having no further problems.
We can offer you - Radiotherapy, Hormone Therapy and Chemotherapy. Each one would give maybe a 2-3% extra increase. We had been looking at progressing with IVF, trying just now for egg collection and then have my cancer treatment, but, Fertility doctor told me i needed to lose 2 stones before could treat me, thats fine, oncologist then said if i take 3 months to lose that weight they couldnt offer me Radio or Chemo just hormone therapy and advise if i proceeded with stimulation and egg collection, because my cancer is hormone sensitive I am incresing my risks of cancer.
we decided last night not to proceed with egg collection at this time, too much is going on in our marraige but also I am scared of risking more cancer? I was 40 at the start of the year so kinda my only chance though
So, i now need to choose - Chemotherapy (AC type?) Radiotherapy and Tamoxifen. becasue we had been discusing preresving fertility he had suggested Radio and combined Tamoxifen and Goserelin (Zoladex)
Husband pressed him to ask if it was his wife, given the se’s of chemo and her already quite good chances would he tell his wife to take chemo, after being pressed oncologist said he would probably tell her to leave it.
My worries are -
- Taking chemo, side effects and health risks to potentially not a big gain for me
- Not taking chemo, what if in 5 years time i have cancer and I would always think what if?
- side effects of Tamoxifen/Goserelin combined
Any, and i do mean any advice or comments at all ladies, please help as I need to choose by tomorroe and I am going round and round in my own head and hearing “you are the boss, you decide” all the time from my oncologist when I can’t even decide what to wear in the morning is sending me up the wall.
Thanks guys xx