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Hi cyber fr4iends, I know it is late but i have finihsed treatment but now mny beloved father has died very suddenenle7y. help me!

Dear Rachy

I am so sad to hear about your father and I can’t think of any words at the moment that might make you feel better, only that I am thinking of you.



Dear Rachy - I am so sorry to hear about your father. Mine died suddenly too and I know how devastated you must feel - I, too, am thinking of you.



Dear Rachy

So sorry to hear of your loss… thinking of you

Dear Rachael

I am sorry to read about the sudden loss of your father and pass on our condolences from the team here.

Best wishes

Hi rachy, I’m so sorry. My brother died 3 months before I got bc, very suddenly of a heart attack, I never got chance to say goodbye. Things do seem to compound in life, my thought are with you, big hugs xx

Hi Rachy,So sorry to hear about your beloved father.I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better but I am afraid there isn’t.I am thinking of you and sending cyber hugs.You have been through so much ,take care of yourself,

I felt like that about my Dad, he died while on holiday abroad, so just never came back. It took me a long time to be able to come to terms with it as it shook me so much and he had just always been there for me. I always say I lost my biggest fan, the day I lost my Dad. We never even had a raised voice between us for my whole life. If it helps a little I came to terms with it by thinking that many people are not fortunate enough to have had a parent, who could provoke such a feeling of loss and emotion. The loss is always deep when you have gained so much by having that person in your life. Only time will heal and it can take a long time but now I can now imagine my Dad driving around in my car with me singing and just happy memories of what I had. As we know on here, many children are not fortunate enough, like us, to have parents through to their adulthood.It will get easier to accept and cope with. Promise.
Thinking of you and hope the happy memories will keep you strong.
Big hugs. Love
Lily x x

Oh Rachy I am so sorry to hear about your dear dad. You have been through so much this year and this must just feel like a huge body blow. No-one can ever take away your lovely memories of him and how wonderful that you had that strong relationship and that he saw you get well after your BC treatment You’re right, everything seems to come at once, take care, dont expect too much of yourself


Louise x

Oh, Rachy

What a long night you must have had. I’m so sorry to hear of your sad loss. You’ve beat bc and you’ll find the strength to cope with the coming days/weeks/months ahead. You have many wonderful memories of your time with your dad, and they’ll see you through.

Maureen xx

So very sorry and how long and lonely the night must have been,your Hamlet quotation is so apt for so many people at the moment.

So sorry Rachy tor hear of your sad loss. My father died when I was 19 and I am now 53 and still think of him constantly particularly recently during my own testing time. Only time will heal the sorrow you feel but you will learn to think of him with such happiness thinking of the good times you had together and remember he is always part of you. Just be gentle with yourself he knows how much you loved him and will continue to do so. There will always be milestones in your life that you will miss him like mad but then that just proves how much he meant to you and that can only be a good thing. Just try to lead your life they way he would want you to and that will give you strength and in family situations continue to speak of him it is something we have always done and it keeps him with us.

Thinking of you Bev

Thank you everyone for the messages. It means a lot to me.


So very sorry to hear that your dad has died . You must be in terrbibe awful shock…take good care…the coming time will be tough for you. Hope you have good support around you.

best wishes


So sorry to hear about your dad. I was the other way round - first my mum died, then three weeks later I was dx with BC.

It’s very hard to get your head around two such big events happening one after the other. I find that I cannot separate the two in my mind - they will always go together in my thoughts. I don’t really know what to say, other than be very kind to yourself, and don’t expect too much of yourself.

I didn’t really grieve for my mum last year, as I was too much taken up with getting through the treatment (dx Feb 07), so I think I have been doing my grieving this year. Also, I have found myself crying all over again about my dad, who died in 1991, and I thought I was long over that. I have tears in my eyes even now.

When you have been through one traumatic event, it feels like you should be exempt from any others for a while, but unfortunately sh*t happens, and any number of bad things can happen. Now my dog is dying of cancer (dad and mum were both cancer, so it’s a full house so far). I think my teenagers are wondering who is next.

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time


Very sorry to hear about your loss, I can only offer you the fact that it does get easier in time but I know that is of little help now.

Don’t feel that you should be thinking/feeling this or that, everyone is different and whatever you feel is ok.

best wishes



Hi Rachy
I’m so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time having just lost your dear father and having to deal with BC as well.
I know it’s a difficult time for you and you know (as you can see) you will get lots of support here from lots of people who care.
My dad was very ill about 5 years ago and I remember how awful I felt about it all but thankfully he had treatment and is now doing well.

Big hugs and best wishes

Ruby xxx

Dear Rachy

so sorry to hear of your loss. thinking of you.

Anthi x

i was dx with BC three weeks after my mum died too, strange how often things like that seem to happen. condolences Rachy, it will be hard so gather your friends around you…a lot of my friends lost parents around the time when i did so it did help to know that others were going through the same thing.