My twin sister was dx with bc tree weeks ago, having seven chemos them surgery followed by radio, i have been to hospital for tests, mammogram, scans, been told i have got dense breast tissue end several small cysts and to to breast aware, still very worried for my sister and myself, any one else been through this.
Hi,
I was diagnosed at 37 had a mast, chemo, radio , hormone tables, then a recon, all 3.5 years ago, am well now. I dont have a twin, but I do have a very close sister just 2 years older than me, and I think at times it was harder for her, I had a treatment plan to getter better and she just had to watch me go through it, she was a great support to me and we are even closer now. My sister has an annual mamogram because her risk is higher because of me.
It is a worrying time but it is doable and you will both come out the other end.
Jo
I was very similar to Jo. diagnosed at 37, mast, chemo, herceptin, rads, recon and now just tamoxifen, I am coming on 3 years.
My sister is 13 months younger so was 36, she was sent to the breast clinic for tests, she was advised to have annual checks with GP and then join BC at 40. Have been told my daughter will be checked at much younger age.
My sister was great during my treatment, she knew I hated being sick and off work so we would walk miles and miles most days to clear my head and get me out of the house. We also had some great lunches too.
Look after each other
Debbie x
Hi
I was also dx at 37 - in jan this year. I had 6 chemo, surgery and have just started radiotherapy (no tabs as triple neg). It’s a long slog, but you just need to take it a day at a time. I don’t have a twin - my sister is 7 yrs older than me but we get on great and she’s been a great support - just by being there, listening, caring and sharing. I’m sure you will be a great comfort to your twin. I do agree with Jo, I think its tougher for those watching you go through it.
I can’t believe I’m nearly finished treatment, getting quite excited!
Take care of yourself, and your sister. All the best,
Ax
thank you for you support and comments, i will always be there for my sister, we have a very special bond, hope you are all well and take care of yourselves. sara xx
HI Saradenn
I was dx with bc August 07 at the age of 41 and I also have a twin . Have finished chemo and rads end of May and am now on Tamoxifen .
She has been checked out and thankfully all is ok . I have 3 other sisters in addition of which I am the youngest. Even though they all live 250 miles away when I asked for help they came a couple of days at a time to help with my children and my distressed hubby which I really really needed . Thank God for my beautiful sisters.
My twin has been very unemotional about the whole thing which I found a bit odd at first but I’m sure its just her way of coping. If I’d seen her upset it wouldnt have helped me for sure. She is planning to emigrate to Australia which I found quite hard to deal with at first but after being through this I am now a bit unemotional about it all . Well I wont go on about that , all I can say is just be there as I know you will be .
love Cally
Hi cally,
Thank you for your support, me and my twin sister did become quite distant due to family problems, we have since sorted things out,
luckily i only live two minutes away so a quick phone call and i will be there if she needs me, i also feel that i dont want to impose on her to much but she knows i am there for her, glad to hear things are well for you,
Hugs
Sara
hi all
Just a bit worried as my sister has got her second round of chemo on tuesday, things have already started to happen with hair loss, etc etc, didnt think it would kick in so soon, tried to make a joke ov it but could see the tears in her eyes,
xxxx
Sara
Hya all,
Sister just had third round of chemo, symptoms arnt quite as bad as last time, think she is learning to cope with the effects of chemo,
i have told her about htis site, just dont think she is ready to come on herself just yet, i wish she would, then she could see how very heplful and loving and that she is not the only one going through this, hope that does not sound selfish but i think when you first have bad news like this everyone feels the same,
take care and keep well.
sara
I have an older sister too. She is very worried for me when i first told her my dx- she could not sleep as she was worried about me. But I told her the best way for her to support me is to be less emotional and if i feel she suffers the pain, i will be more worried about her. It sounds funny but she realised that worry did not really help anyway. She is now much less emotional and i feel it is great that she could be there for me when my brain is overwhelmed with informations and emotions.
it must be hard for her so i think Sara it must be very hard for you too. But your sister is lucky to have you take care of her…
hope you both doing well
xxx
Hya avonlea,
hope you are well,
my sister is the same age as me, we are twins, i know it sounds silly, but i feel and have a lot of her emotions and pain, she is coping very well and knows that me and all the rest of the family are there for her, i am very strong for her and do not show my emotions in front of her as she will think that we are not coping with it, we have to be strong for her at the end of the day she needs us,
Hugs
Sara
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